Sade, Author at 91大神! /author/sade/ Come for the fun, stay for the culture! Wed, 22 May 2019 10:23:43 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.8.2 /wp-content/uploads/zikoko/2020/04/cropped-91大神_91大神_Purple-Logo-1-150x150.jpg Sade, Author at 91大神! /author/sade/ 32 32 Fuji House Of Commotion Episodes We’ll Never Forget /general/fuji-house-of-commotion-episodes-well-never-forget/ Fri, 28 Sep 2018 14:56:06 +0000 http://www.zikoko.com/?p=132030 See, Fuji House Of Commotion was everything! Refreshingly hilarious with great actors and the catchiest theme song, Amaka Igwe really made my childhood with this. In fact, it鈥檚 still one of the funniest Nigerians comedy TV shows to this day. These are some of the funniest episodes!

The one where Ireti, Peace, Mama Moji and the children decided to move into ‘Aso Rock’ with Ireti and Chief.

The one where ‘kitchen practical’ prepared ‘Osramo Branus Mangus’ for the house to eat.

The one where Peaceful Peace jacked Ireti’s week with Chief.

The one where Mama Moji and Peaceful Peace redefined the art of being shady.

The one where Peace showed us how it feels to get ready for a night with bae and get stood up and the best way to handle it.

The one where ASUU went on strike and Chief’s children came home and started their own strike too and locked their parents out of the house for four days.

The one where Mama Moji, Ireti and Peace decided to spoil Chief for Valentine’s day. With absolutely no ulterior motives.

One of the many episodes where Ireti had to fight for her week with Chief.

These are just the episodes I remember o. I know there are a lot more, so share with us some of your favourite Fuji House Of Commotion episodes! Tweet us @zikokomag! ]]> Underrated Lifestyle Changes You Have To Make In Your 20s /general/lifestyle-changes-to-make-in-your-20s/ Fri, 21 Sep 2018 09:00:04 +0000 http://www.zikoko.com/?p=134455 I’m convinced that youth is a thing of the mind; you can be young, yet feel quite old. It all depends on your lifestyle and how you take care of yourself.

Whether you鈥檇 like to admit it or not, many things are going to change in your 20s 鈥 your body will change and your responsibilities to yourself and others will change. Relationships will grow and die, money stress becomes more real, and your life really becomes your responsibility.

Although this decade can feel like you鈥檙e independent and consequence-free, how you spend your 20s will have a massive impact on the rest of your life.

So, I’m going to give you seven highly underrated tips to help you maintain a balanced, inspired life.

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Stop eating junk

It鈥檚 so unfair, I know. When you can finally afford to eat all the junk you want and not be told off by your parents, you have to stop? Unfortunately, junk food only puts toxins in your body. The older you get, the slower your body can get rid of toxins.

Try to include healthier food into your diet like fruits and vegetables. Looking young even while young takes work.

Drink more water

In your 20s, it鈥檚 very easy for your fluid options to start to range between coffee for energy, soft drinks for refreshment and alcohol for fun. Please don鈥檛 do this. Remember the toxins.

Drinking one to two litres of water every day can help maintain your energy levels, improve your mood, prevent headaches, help with weight loss and better your skin. Take care of yourself.

Exercise regularly

The older you get, the harder it is to exercise. It鈥檚 easier shedding that extra Christmas 5kg than it is trying to lose an accumulated 20kg. Trust me, I know. The older you get, the slower your metabolism gets, and the harder you have to work to keep everything together.

You don鈥檛 have to pass out at the gym; you just need to incorporate some physical activity into your daily routine. Health is the most important thing.

Get regular health checks

Taking care of your health at this age cannot be overemphasized. 脥t鈥檒l make the rest of your life easier. Always remember to get medical and dental check-ups every once in a while. Your body is fully developed in your 20s, and so are your teeth.

If you鈥檙e stuck with the same teeth for the rest of your life, you鈥檙e going to want to take care of them early, before repairing years of neglect becomes even more expensive. Same goes for your body.

Protect yourr skin

The gif above is literally what the sun does to your skin over time, regardless of your race. Your skin is not going to remain supple and wrinkle-free forever 鈥 especially if you don鈥檛 protect it.

Use sunscreen, moisturise, drink water and mind your business 鈥 your glow is going to be insane.

Read more books

Reading is so essential for growth! It broadens your horizon and helps you think of things from a new perspective. Challenge yourself to read as many books as possible, even if it鈥檚 fiction.

You can set a goal of one book a month. There鈥檚 a lot to be learned from them, and they鈥檙e fun.

Set standards

It鈥檚 important to use your 20s to learn about yourself and set standards. Whether from a relationship or job, it鈥檚 vital to know what you are willing to accept or tolerate, lest you fall victim to people that would end up doing nothing for you.

Don鈥檛 settle; you have your whole life ahead of you.

Have any other life hacks for twenty-somethings? Drop a comment or tweet us @zikokomag.

]]> 5 Dates For 5k: Ideas That Don’t Break The Bank /general/5-dates-for-5k-ideas-that-dont-break-the-bank/ Wed, 19 Sep 2018 15:04:54 +0000 http://www.zikoko.com/?p=134493 The Nigerian economy is hella tough these days, and spending money on frivolities is a no.
However, even though it can be, dating is not always a waste. How else do you want to get to know somebody more intimately?

And even though this brother and his girlfriend consider spending five thousand naira on a date outrageous, that’s not the case.

It鈥檚 not a lot of money these days. Still, you can go on a romantic date for N5000 or under. Let me show you how.

Go to the movies

Movie dates are a perfect date idea. They鈥檙e cosy and they give you and your date something to talk about. The best part is, they鈥檙e also cheap, at least depending on what you鈥檙e buying. The trick to enjoying this date with 5k is to be assertive and forward. No too much asking 鈥渨hat do you want?鈥 when you get to the counter. Just go on discount days, grab聽popcorn聽and drinks. Good to go at 5k.

Have a picnic

Picnics are a creative, fun date idea. You enjoy a nice view, food and each other鈥檚 uninterrupted company. Picnics are also entirely customizable to your budget. I know you鈥檙e thinking, 鈥榳here on earth can I go for a picnic?鈥 For my Lagos people, you can go to this quiet little beach in Lekki called Marwa. Gate fee is N300. If you鈥檙e paying for two, you still have N4400 to buy food and drinks. Choose wisely, and enjoy your date.

Grab a pizza

You can鈥檛 go wrong with pizza, and that鈥檚 a fact. It is delicious, filling, and it makes everyone happy. You can decide to share some happiness with your date and grab a medium-sized pizza. You can also get soft drinks or ice cream and still sit under the 5k cap. It will be an extra cute and bonding moment as you guys share your N5000 meal. Remember to go half-and-half when picking pizza toppings!

Get drinks

Not every date should be about food. Perhaps you just want to spend some time together and neither of you is particularly hungry. What to do? Get drinks, of course. Especially if you two enjoy alcoholic beverages. It鈥檚 a wonderful way to loosen up and get to know each other. Many nice places will give you two cocktails for less than 鈧5000, and still leave you with enough money for Suya.

Go to an art gallery/museum

If art and history is your thing, you should totally go to an art gallery. There are in Lagos. Apart from the beauty of the art, the best thing about art galleries is that they are mostly free. You can buy snacks or drinks to your heart鈥檚 desire. Under 5k of course. You can also take the nice pictures for priceless memories.

What other fun under-5k dates have you been on?

Comment below or tweet us . ]]> Sexually Transmitted Diseases Almost As Bad As HIV /life/stds-as-bad-as-hiv/ Mon, 17 Sep 2018 16:38:19 +0000 http://zikoko.com/?p=91749 Brace yourself, brothers and sisters.

For what you are about to witness will (or should) forever change your perspective on bumping uglies with strange people. If you don鈥檛 know them well enough to be able to ask for STD test results, they鈥檙e strange.

Now, we know body no be firewood.

But before you go and meet that sweet boy or sweet girl, better find out their status. Ask to see the results, even. Some people have horrible STDs. Our ancestors call unwanted and unexpected 鈥榞ifts鈥 like that 鈥榙ouble wahala.’ Be advised.

First off, sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) are the literal worst.

STDs are infections/diseases caused by having sexual contact with infected people either through oral, anal or/& vaginal intercourse. Most STDs show no symptoms and may last for years which is additionally scary. By the time it shows symptoms, a great deal of damage could have been done.

Most of them are curable, but there are a few that can only be managed.

Those are the ones we’re focusing on today. The manageable ones. They are unsightly, painful, expensive and potentially deadly. Infected people have to depend on medicine to suppress symptoms for the remainder of their life, or until scientists figure out a cure.

So stay woke.

Gonorrhea is one of the most common STDs in Nigeria. In fact, a study done by WHO showed that Lagos in 1963 had the highest gonorrhea rate in the world! It鈥檚 most common among young people between 15 to 24 and it infects parts of the body that are warm and moist eg the eyes, mouth, urethra, vagina, anus etc. Oddly enough, gonorrhea used to have a complete cure, but the infection-causing bacterium Neisseria gonorrhea has become resistant.

Symptoms:

Gonorrhea can cause rectal infections, anal itching, sores, discharge or bleeding. It鈥檚 pretty nasty. If treatment doesn鈥檛 start right away, it can have dire consequences such as聽obstruction of the fallopian tubes, infertility and ectopic pregnancy. Men may feel pain in their testicles, and be unable to father a child.

These are sexually transmitted diseases that lead to liver inflammation and, in serious cases, to death.  There is no cure for hepatitis A & B, however, there is a vaccine for these two types and your body usually clears both Hepatitis A and Hepatitis B within a few months. Unfortunately, some people end up with , which means their body didn鈥檛 get rid of it within six months. At this stage, you can only take medication to slow down the liver damage.

Symptoms:

When Hepatitis is contracted, first symptoms can include a general feeling of unwell,聽vomiting,聽nausea,聽 fever and dark-coloured urine.聽 In serious cases, Hepatitis develops into and can lead to liver cancer.

This is a viral infection that is passed through skin-to-skin contact. Most people get HPV through direct sexual contact, such as oral sex. It can affect your mouth, genitals or throat, giving you warts. Warts associated with most HPV infections go away on their own, but the virus remains in the infected person鈥檚 body. As a result, that person may still pass HPV to sexual partners.

Symptoms:

When the virus doesn鈥檛 go away on its own, it鈥檚 a big problem. Complications include genital warts and warts in the throat. HPV may also cause cervical cancer and cancers of the genitals, head, neck, and throat. However, the types of HPV that cause warts are different from the types that cause cancer.

Herpes is a viral infection characterized by periodic outbreaks of painful sores. It can be contracted through sex, kissing or touching an affected area. Although condoms can prevent herpes transmission during intercourse, oral contact with genitals or open sores anywhere can spread the disease.

Symptoms:

Herpes usually shows up as cold sores or blisters. Symptoms can also include pain when urinating,聽lower back pain,聽flu-like symptoms and聽a burning sensation in the genitals. Small red bumps may also appear around the genitals or on the mouth.

Bottom line

Nobody likes living with STDs of any kind. The good news is, if you have any of these STDs, they can be managed well with modern medicine. Don鈥檛 beat yourself up about it. If you don鈥檛 have any STDs, take care to keep it that way. It is important to choose your sexual partners very carefully and use protection. Abstinence, however, remains the best way to protect yourself.

]]> 8 African Books To Get You Started On The ‘Woke’ Journey /general/woke-african-books-to-read/ Fri, 14 Sep 2018 15:44:16 +0000 http://www.zikoko.com/?p=134068 Nigerians are woke these days 鈥 at least that’s what you’d think if you stumbled onto, and got lost in social media.
The truth is, a lot of us are not. We are naturally loud and extremely assertive, so when we talk it鈥檚 easy enough to believe we are authorities on the matter. However, even though a lot of us claim woke, we don鈥檛 deeply understand certain issues.

Because the lines are so blurry, what does ‘woke’ mean, anyway?

I love this definition of woke; 鈥済etting woke is like being in the Matrix and taking the red pill. You get a sudden understanding of what鈥檚 really going on and find out you were wrong about much of what you understood to be truth.鈥 In simpler terms, it means to become aware of the problems in our society and the factors that contribute to them. You 鈥榳ake鈥 up to the realization that some of our traditions, culture, societal structure and interactions are problematic.
The impact of wokeness in Nigeria is however limited by 鈥榝ake wokeness鈥. What is fake woke, you ask? Fake woke people are those who aren鈥檛 directly affected by or understand certain social issues, but still argue blindly in favour of the problem. They are the opposing voice, creating doubt and slowing down progress.

Can wokeness be learned?

Yes, it can. Ironically, when supposedly enlightened people tell 鈥榠gnorant鈥 people to read a book, it鈥檚 actually not (just) an insult. You can actually find the answers to life in books. We鈥檝e put together a reading list of African books which attack social issues to get you started.

1. Female marginalisation: So Long A Letter – Mariama B芒

An inspiring story of feminine strength, So Long A Letter is written as a series of letters between Ramatoulaye and her best friend Aissatou, after Ramatoulaye鈥檚 estranged husband dies from a heart attack. While observing mirasse, (a forty-day period of isolation and mourning) Ramatoulaye keeps a diary which she sends her friend. This book explores a woman鈥檚 place in developing West African society. Ba wants this novel to encourage women take responsibility for their lives. The letter format pulls you in, making the book feel extremely personal.

2. Government incompetence: The Trouble With Nigeria – Chinua Achebe

This is a great book for Nigerians, but the problems therein apply to a lot of African countries. The Trouble With Nigeria takes a look at Nigeria鈥檚 major problem which according to Achebe is leadership鈥搊r the lack of it. Leadership is used as the launching pad to dissect many Nigerian problems: tribalism, lack of patriotism, social injustice, the cult of mediocrity, indiscipline and corruption.

3. Social disintegration: Things Fall Apart – Chinua Achebe

Rich in cultural history, Things Fall Apart tells a captivating story of a traditional Igbo man who, though living in a rapidly changing Africa, refuses to accept British imperialists and missionaries. Achebe describes the daily life of the Igbo by telling the story Okonkwo and passes on key points about the Igbo culture. This book details how the way of life of the British crept into traditional Igbo society, and exposes the corruption and oppression that was perpetuated.

4. Sexual harassment/rape: Rape: A South African Nightmare – Pumla Dineo Gqola

Using examples from the past and present, Rape: A South African Nightmare takes on various aspects of rape culture in South Africa. It does so by focusing on the patterns and trends of rape culture and asking what can be learned from famous cases. This book analyses the fact that public responses to rape are characterised by doubt. It also asks penetrating questions about female fear factor, boy rape, the rape of black lesbians and more.

5. Mental health: Freshwater – Akwaeke Emezi

Freshwater is Akwaeke Emezi鈥檚 daring debut novel that was shortlisted for The Center For Fiction First Novel Prize, 2018. This book paints a profound picture of what it鈥檚 like to mentally be between worlds by exploring the life of Ada, a Nigerian girl who was a little 鈥渄ifferent鈥 from other children. She was a challenging child for her parents, who were constantly concerned about her fractured existence. Throughout her life, Ada speaks through her various selves (which is framed within the Igbo tradition of ogbanje). Freshwater takes on challenging topics such as identity, mental illness, self-harm, sexual assault, suicide, and more.

6. Yahoo-Yahoo: I Do Not Come To You By Chance – Adaobi Tricia Nwaubani

Adaobi Tricia Nwaubani鈥檚 debut novel, I Do Not Come To You By Chance won the 2010 Wole Soyinka Prize for Literature in Africa and the 2010 Commonwealth Writers鈥 Prize for Best First Book in Africa. This is a very insightful contemporary African novel centered around a young man burdened with responsibility. It details the lengths he goes to provide for his family, which takes us into the world of email scams AKA Yahoo-Yahoo and into the lives of the people behind them.

7. Gender roles and inequality – Male Daughters, Female Husbands: Gender and Sex In An African Society – Ify Amadiume

Male Daughters, Female Husbands explores the imposition of Western life onto West African society. This book does a fantastic job of outlining the new gender reality created by the impression of European Christian values on a traditionally matrilineal Igbo society. Amadiume details a rich history of economic and social power that West African women held, and how they鈥檝e have found themselves disadvantaged compared to their male counterparts since the early 1900s. This is a must-read for every woman.

8. Abuse and domestic violence: Purple Hibiscus – Chimamanda Adichie

Longlisted by the Booker Prize in 2004, and shortlisted for the Orange Prize For Fiction that same year, Purple Hibiscus has garnered a lot of acclaim. This is a captivating book that handles abuse in a most delicate way. This book is focused on Kambili and her family, and what they endure for the sake of religion and family values. It shows the disintegration of her family unit and the unimaginable effects of abuse.

If you’ve read any of these books, what do you think about them? Which other books would you recommend?

]]> How To Be A Good Wife According To Nollywood /life/oldies/how-to-be-a-good-wife-to-nollywood/ Fri, 14 Sep 2018 11:00:50 +0000 http://www.zikoko.com/?p=130663 Nollywood has always depicted Nigerian society in different crazy ways, but nothing compares to how they depict exactly how Nigerian wives should behave. It’s amazing and highkey hilarious, honestly. Let me give you a few examples.
These people will just be making marriage to be fearing somebody. Where鈥檚 the nearest convent, abeg?

1. Marry as a virgin

But on your wedding night, bust several moves. Shey the knowledge comes with the ring, at least for women? Men have to get their knowledge the more鈥 manual way, obviously.

2. Throw it down in the kitchen

Looking like this, no less. If you鈥檙e not Martha Stewart mixed with , are you even worth marrying? You will just push your husband into the hands of the next woman that can cook! Shey, it鈥檚 food聽cooked by someone else聽he came to use his life to eat.

3. Get pregnant in the first few months.

In fact,聽if you don鈥檛 get pregnant on your wedding night there must be something wrong. To聽Nollywood, any good wife will birth a son first, so act accordingly. It鈥檚 simply common sense and a little biology. Also, don鈥檛 forget to keep having babies till your husband can no longer afford them, but never ever add weight, look tired or complain.

4. Never accuse your husband of cheating even if you catch him red handed.

And if it鈥檚 paining you too much that your husband聽fell into the orifices of another woman, you need to apologise for not being enough and performing your duties to satisfaction. If he should continue, get your Bible or Quran and pray because it must be jazz.

5. Be obedient.

If your husband says 鈥榡ump鈥, you better pack your breasts and start jumping.

6. Always look good.

Even if you鈥檙e just leaving the delivery room. As soon as that baby drops, the weight should drop too. In fact, leave that place with your baby, makeup and heels. After all, you don鈥檛 want to push him into the hands of another woman.

7. Be more forgiving than Jesus.

If your husband slaps you, just grab his collar, call him by his name and say 鈥測ou slapped me?!鈥 Then go ahead and insist that he kill you without delay. And when he should get on his knees, shed two tears and insist that the devil made him do it, forgive him. You鈥檙e a good wife.

8. Clean the house like that’s what you were born to do.

A Nigerian husband can only survive in the cleanest of homes and environments, so of course, it is your duty as a good wife to make that happen. The house must always be sparkling!

9. Always always look sexy.

But only in the house! So you can titillate his senses as you bend down to perform every little task. You have to stay on top of that sexy game!

10. Don’t bother him unnecessarily. Even when you think it’s important, it’s not important to him.

Even if you also have a job, you must always remember that your husband has had a long day, so you must never ask him to help around the house, help with the children, or even inconvenience him by falling sick. Don鈥檛 make him look outside the home for complete laziness.

11. Respect his family. He doesn’t have to respect yours o but you must respect his family.

Even if his younger siblings are younger than the last born of your family, you must always call them 鈥榮ister鈥 or 鈥榖rother鈥. Show that you have home training if you don鈥檛 want to go back to your father鈥檚 house that they weren鈥檛 chasing you from in the first place.

12. You had better get out of bed first in the morning.

You must never let your husband wake up after you. What kind of wife are you?! You should have been doing 鈥渙ne or two things鈥 before he opens his eyes. This includes but is not limited to cooking, cleaning, and preparing the kids for school. You get up before him on weekends even, to handwash his underwear.

13. Ensure food is always fresh and hot.

Whether you have a job or not, all food your husband eats must be fresh and hot. Don鈥檛 ask me how you鈥檙e supposed to do that 鈥 I鈥檓 not married to your husband with you.

14. Please what else did we leave out?

Drop a comment below! ]]> Savings Struggles You Can Definitely Relate To /general/savings-struggles-you-can-definitely-relate-to/ Mon, 03 Sep 2018 16:00:06 +0000 http://www.zikoko.com/?p=129904

Money? What’s that?

How do you take something out of nothing? Don鈥檛 angry me, please! *crying in unemployment*

How much am I even earning?

Man never chop finish, you鈥檙e talking about saving. I can see you don鈥檛 have my best interests at heart.

Automated payments

鈥淏aba God, tell me I鈥檓 dreaming. These people have removed my last change. Who sent you? Who sent you?!鈥

Have you seen the price of garri in the market?

It鈥檚 like you don鈥檛 know what is happening in the country. You can鈥檛 even price anyhow anymore. Just leave me to be managing my life.

Food

How will I buy food if I keep saving? Please let me enjoy; life is one.

Internet

Ordinary small breeze will blow and all your data will finish. Oh, well. *buys more data*

I got 99 problems but saving ain’t one

And on the other end of the spectrum, we have the non-savers. 鈥淲hat is saving, please? Don鈥檛 insult my personality. I just keep making this schmoney! Call me OBO.鈥

What do y’all spend money on that you wish you didn’t have to? Tweet us @zikokomag!

]]> The Struggles Of Being A Single Man In Nigeria /general/the-struggles-of-being-a-single-man-in-nigeria/ Mon, 03 Sep 2018 11:00:35 +0000 http://www.zikoko.com/?p=132252 If you thought being a single man in Nigeria was fun, el. oh. el!
All of us are suffering this thing together.

Imagine, somebody is still managing their life and family is already asking you to marry.

Na wah聽o. Didn鈥檛 I finish school just nine years ago?

Your landlord’s wife will call every girl that comes to your house. “Our wife. Welcome o.”

I don鈥檛 blame you. It鈥檚 my fault that I have six sisters.

If you want to chill with your guys and go with a female friend, wahala. They will tease you to tears.

Please stop talking. Don鈥檛 make things awkward. She鈥檚 like my sister na! Oh God, why is she giving me this kind of side eye?

And when they see you with another female friend, they will start asking about ‘that your former babe’.

If it were that easy to pull babes, shey I won鈥檛 have girlfriend by now? Mumu.

Even your parents will betray you and start asking for their grandchildren.

Wey I never even get babe. Abeg wait small.

When even your ‘irresponsible’ friend gets married, your family will just be looking at you like

See me see trouble o!

Even your married friends that should understand your situation will be telling you to go and marry.

If not that you found somebody to manage you now鈥

Toasting babes will be giving you high blood pressure.

鈥淪he鈥檚 fine o. She probably has a boyfriend, though. What if she should give me L? Do I look alright? Chai, this my shirt don fade. I should have sprayed that perfume. Cheesus!鈥

At one point, you won’t even have your guys to chill wilth again because they’ll all have babes.

All of a sudden, you鈥檒l know the difference between alone and lonely.

When you get to a certain age and you’re still not married, people will start wondering and asking what is wrong with you.

Na wah o. It鈥檚 like this my life, we are all sharing it abi?

My brother, if you let people give you heart attack for singleness that is not their own, well… Issalova Jackie.

Just take it easy and enjoy your life before you make a huge mistake! ]]> See Where These Iconic Nigerian Artists Are Now /general/see-where-these-iconic-nigerian-artists-are-now/ Fri, 31 Aug 2018 10:54:55 +0000 http://www.zikoko.com/?p=131173 What are they up to these days?

Djinee

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Osayamwen Nosa Donald was easily the Crush and Love of everyone鈥檚 life. The award-winning singer鈥檚 big moment was in 2004 when he released聽his breakout hit, 鈥楨go鈥.
Djinee has dabbled in other aspects of entertainment over the years but is thankfully still singing. He dropped a this year.

Essence

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鈥淚t鈥檚 a Super Story, a life of strife and sorrow.鈥 That voice you heard on Thursday nights belonged to Uwale聽Okoro, you know her as Essence. If you thought she wasn鈥檛 making music anymore, still sings, and blogs.

Paul I.K Dairo

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Paul I.K. Dairo was one of the biggest stars stars of his time. However, time passed and times changed, and Paul fell ill so had to slow down on the music. He鈥檚 better now though, and back to doing what he does pretty well, whether it is being a Judge for a Reality show, or leading live performances.

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First Lady of Nigerian hip-hop, Sasha P aka Anthonia Yetunde Alabi was hot on the music scene in every way. She had bars and flow for days and looked pretty hot as well.聽However, she decided to move from music to fashion in 2013 and has been running her fashion label 鈥 Eclectic by Sasha, ever since.

Eddie Remedy

King of the early late 90s and 2000s, Edward Ashiedu-Brown had Nigeria in the palm of his hand. Lead singer of Remedies, Eddy definitely made his mark. However, over time and with a lot of controversies, he did music less and less. Still, he sings and even hints about the possibility of a Remedies reunion.

Weird M.C.

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Weird M.C is another dope female rapper! She had been on the scene for a while, but she became a real star with her song 鈥淚joya鈥. The video was the coolest at the time. Even though Weird M.C has been quiet on music for a while now, her Twitter profile reads UN Peace Ambassador, Road Safety Marshall, Social Entrepreneur and Influencer. I guess she鈥檚 doing good, then!

Tony Tetuila

Tony Tetuila stole the spotlight with such songs as 鈥楳y Car鈥 and 鈥楳y Heart Go Jigi-Jigi鈥. He really was a superstar! However, the golden-haired musician whose real name is Anthony Awotoye聽hasn鈥檛 done much music since 2014 when he ran for political office in the House of Assembly of Kwara State.

Kel

Kel, aka聽Kelechi Ohia came out with a bang with when she released 鈥榃a Wa Alright鈥. She released an album which did not do so well, but a few years later she released another song with W4 that was a was a hit. Kel then went silent again. However, she recently said that she has started a record label and is working on a few projects. We can鈥檛 wait.

Daddy Showkey

Daddy Showkey聽aka John Asiemo is a legendary galala singer. He swept us away with songs like 鈥楧iana鈥 and Nigerians just loved him. Unfortunately, he聽had an almost fatal accident that kept him bedridden for three years and out of active music for almost ten years. He鈥檚 easing his way back to music, though and we鈥檙e really excited.

B.O.U.Q.U.I

B.O.U.Q.U.I whose real name is Bukola Folayan held Nigeria鈥檚 attention when she released her album 鈥楨ve Of Independence鈥 that had major hits like 鈥淢olejo鈥 and 鈥漋anity鈥. She cut across more than the Christian audience she made songs for. Since her second album, she has been quiet until recently when she held an online rap competition 鈥 BOUQUI Unstoppable Rap Competition. She still does music, and she鈥檚 doing good! ]]> Do Children Actually Need To Be Beaten? /general/do-children-actually-need-to-be-beaten/ Thu, 30 Aug 2018 16:00:57 +0000 http://www.zikoko.com/?p=133900 When a lot of people recall childhood beatings, it’s often with a hint of wry humour and I’m usually just blown, like
Excuse me, what about getting beaten is funny? Your dad or mom had you hospitalized and left a permanent scar on you and you鈥檙e laughing almost fondly?聽What in the聽 is this? I often find that the longer people tell these stories, the humour fades and their true feelings of the events are exposed 鈥 whatever they may be. Admittedly, if I were asked to recount such tales, I鈥檇 probably laugh in the process of telling it as well. Well, that just might be because I鈥檓 damaged. Who knows?
Corporal punishments or what we call beating, is tightly woven into the average Nigerian or African鈥檚 correctional culture. It starts at home with parents, aunts or uncles and older siblings, and extends to school and sometimes even religious institutions. In fact, it鈥檚 not the strangest thing to see a man or woman 鈥渄iscipline鈥 a complete stranger鈥檚 child for some wrongdoing or other. They say it takes a village to raise a child and this village believes in the supposed effectiveness of beatings. However, with all the beatings and supposed discipline, crime and immorality are still rife in the society.
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A lot of people will argue that beatings didn鈥檛 leave any lasting mental scars, that they鈥檙e actually better for it. These same people look forward to beating their children for not much other reason than 鈥榳ell, it was聽done to me and I turned out well鈥. That might be true, but you could definitely have turned out a whole lot better. In an environment that often disregards mental health, it would be hard for you to even tell the signs. Damaged people damage people.

There are many detrimental effects of corporal punishment.

If you were beaten as a child, it鈥檚 okay to admit that you are damaged. It makes it easier to notice the signs and break the cycle. Unless you have the very spawn of the devil as a child (which is very unlikely) there鈥檚 no way he/she won鈥檛 be able to discern right from wrong, especially if broken down and properly communicated to them. It doesn鈥檛 have to be etched on their bodies through beatings. In聽contrast to what parents are trying to achieve, the child most often only learns to fear punishment, rather than understand why he should follow rules. They become sneaky and learn to hide bad聽behaviour well, because of the fear of punishment. AKA 鈥渨rong is what gets you punished; right is what gets you praise or avoids punishment.鈥 Morally upright, indeed. See this.
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Beatings don鈥檛 teach your child to behave properly.聽A child who gets beaten for fighting a sibling won鈥檛 magically learn how to get along better in future. Parents are in fact just聽sending a confusing message by doing exactly what they鈥檙e trying to get the children to not do. Children do what parents do, more than what they say.聽聽should always teach new skills, and parents are responsible for the child they raised. Parents often lose it and react, and in the process don鈥檛 teach anything other than聽that their child should be afraid of them. Parents who use corporal punishment often react out of desperation before they really consider the underlying reason. The child just gets beaten without fully understanding what they did wrong, simply learning that their parents don鈥檛 like it and not to do it again鈥 and get caught.

Parents who employ corporal punishment as a discipline tool are simply training their kids to resent them.

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Beatings damage your child’s self-esteem, their ability to interact properly with others, their view of the world and their view of how they deserve to be treated!

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Beatings push your children away from you, and they become vulnerable to picking up vices from strangers. They also perfect bad habits such as lying. Why make your child grow up traumatised?

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Punishment isn’t the only facet of discipline! In fact, if your discipline consists of just negative consequences, it isn’t very effective.

Some parents, when asked why they beat their children, will say out of frustration 鈥淚 don鈥檛 know what else to do.鈥 How would you feel if you were meted out that same punishment by a spouse or loved one with the excuse of them not knowing how else to let you know you鈥檇 made a mistake? That would be termed 鈥楨motional Pain and Suffering鈥 for an adult, so why do we believe children don鈥檛 have the same feelings that adults do? The screaming that comes from a young child being beaten is not so much the result of physical trauma as it is emotional trauma. They experience the overwhelming emotional pain of rejection, worthlessness, and the betrayal is usually much worse than any physical pain.

So, is #StopBeatingChildren a relevant movement in the Nigerian society? Yes.

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We need to recognize beatings for what they are 鈥 abuse. We need to break the cycle of abusing our children because we were abused. There are other equally effective methods of disciplining a child without physical (or verbal) abuse. Parents can try, for one, actually talking to the kids like they鈥檙e human beings with brains. They should also聽try educating them as patiently as possible about the dangers or implications of their bad behaviour. Ignore them, ground them, take away something they love, clearly express your disapproval and lecture them if need be, just do anything but abuse them. The mental scars you inflict on them will last longer than any lesson you鈥檇 like them to learn.

What are your thoughts on using corporal punishment as a discipline tool?

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