General | 91大神! /category/general/ Come for the fun, stay for the culture! Sun, 31 May 2026 18:22:10 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.8.2 /wp-content/uploads/zikoko/2020/04/cropped-91大神_91大神_Purple-Logo-1-150x150.jpg General | 91大神! /category/general/ 32 32 鈥淚 Never Thought I’d Move Back Home Again鈥 鈥 10 Nigerian 9-to-5ers Share How Their Lives Have Changed Since 2023 /citizen/nigerian-workers-life-since-tinubu-2023/ Sun, 31 May 2026 18:22:07 +0000 /?p=377983

Three years ago, many Nigerian workers weren’t exactly living large, but they could still afford the basics. Rent was manageable, transport didn’t eat up a huge chunk of their salaries, and some people could even save a little at the end of the month.

Today, many 9-to-5 workers say that’s no longer the case.

As President Tinubu marks three years in office, we asked Nigerian workers how their lives have changed since 2023. Their responses reveal a pattern of shrinking purchasing power, rising living costs, side hustles, layoffs, and everyday compromises that have quietly reshaped what it means to earn a salary in Nigeria.


1. 鈥淚 never imagined I’d have to move back in with my parents鈥 鈥 Charles*, 29, M

As of 2021, my 鈧250k salary was enough to sustain me comfortably because I lived alone in a self-con and had very few responsibilities. But now, everything is more expensive.

My rent increased from 鈧400,000 per year to 鈧850,000. I could no longer afford to live on my own. I eventually had to move back in with my parents just to survive. I never imagined I would have to take that step again.

2. 鈥淚 became a part-time Korope driver to make ends meet鈥 鈥 Chibuzo*, 36, M

Before 2023, my salary wasn’t much, but my wife and I could manage the basics and keep the house in order. It wasn’t easy, but it worked. These days, things are much harder, so I became a part-time Korope driver to make ends meet.

My job closes around 4:30 p.m., and from there, I go straight to driving. Even though I do it to add a little to what I earn from my job, it still doesn’t solve the problem because I have to share the money with the vehicle owner at the end of the day.

3. 鈥淓very day, I’m scared I could be next鈥 鈥 Afolabi, 27, M

When I joined this company a few years ago, I had about eight people on my team. Over the past two years, many of my colleagues have been laid off because the company says it can’t afford everyone’s salaries. Now there are only four of us left.

Every few months, somebody else leaves, and the workload keeps increasing for the rest of us. These days, I come to work with the fear that it could be my turn too one day.

4. 鈥淚’m this close to quitting my job鈥 鈥 Mayowa*, 29, M

I started teaching at this private primary school in 2021, and back then, most classes had about 20 to 25 students. Over the last two years, I’ve watched those numbers drop drastically, mostly because many parents can no longer afford the school fees.

Now, some classes are nowhere near as full as they used to be, and it’s starting to affect how often we get paid. Honestly, I’m this close to quitting.

5. 鈥淚 miss when things were easier for everybody鈥 鈥 Esther*, 27, F

Back in 2022, whenever I closed late and couldn’t find a bus going home, one of my co-workers would offer to take me home with him. It became a routine, and whenever I tried to contribute to fuel, he always told me not to bother.

Recently, he asked me to start paying for fuel. I’m not complaining because I know fuel is expensive and he’s doing me a favour. I just miss when things were easier for everybody.

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6. 鈥淚 genuinely wonder how people are expected to survive on these salaries鈥 鈥 Priscilla, 31, F

I worked in my previous field for about three years before deciding to switch careers. The year I got a new job was the same year Tinubu came into power, and job hunting since then has been exhausting.

Most of the openings I see now offer between 鈧150,000 and 鈧200,000. It honestly feels discouraging, considering my experience level and how expensive everything has become. Sometimes I look at these salaries and genuinely wonder how people are expected to survive on them.

7. 鈥淚 was shocked by how much our hampers changed鈥 鈥 Mariam*, 46, F

I’ve been working at the same company for years, and before 2023, our end-of-year hampers were always full. Because of my position, I would get things like a 25kg bag of rice, power banks, biscuits, chocolates, and other gifts. But ever since December 2024, it has just kept reducing.

Last December, there was no rice and no gadgets. We were only given a small box of biscuits and chocolates. I was genuinely shocked.

8. 鈥淢y transport fare quadrupled鈥 鈥 Kemi*, 26, F

Before 2023, my transport to and from work was 鈧500. The day after the fuel subsidy removal announcement, my transport to work alone became 鈧500.

Today, I spend about 鈧2,000 just getting to work, and that’s not even counting the journey back home. It still doesn’t make sense to me.

9. 鈥淲orking from home didn’t save me money after all鈥 鈥 Precious*, 29, F

After Tinubu came into power, my transport fare increased from 鈧400 to 鈧1,400. To help workers cope, my company switched to a hybrid schedule. I honestly thought it would help me save money. Instead, electricity became more expensive. Data became more expensive, too. I’ve spent so much money trying to keep my home workspace running that sometimes it feels like whether I stay at home or go to the office, I’m still spending money I can’t afford to lose.

10. 鈥淲e had to sell our car to take care of our family鈥 鈥 Eniola*, 36, F

My husband and I used to go to work together every day because our offices were close to each other. He would drop me off in the morning and pick me up after work. It worked well for years.

But recently, things became too expensive, especially the cost of maintaining the car. We eventually had to sell it so we could focus on caring for our children and keeping the family afloat. Now we spend almost twice as much on transport every day.


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More Than a Sponsor: How Don Julio Became Part of the AMVCA Cultural Moment /announcements/don-julio-amvca/ Thu, 14 May 2026 14:55:31 +0000 /?p=377124 The Africa Magic Viewers鈥 Choice Awards has evolved into far more than an awards ceremony. Over the years, the AMVCA has become one of Africa鈥檚 most important cultural stages,  a space where film, fashion, storytelling, creativity and identity come together in celebration of African excellence.

At the 12th edition of the AMVCA, one brand understood that cultural significance perfectly,Don Julio.

As headline sponsor of this year鈥檚 ceremony, Don Julio brought its philosophy of devotion, craftsmanship and earned celebration into the heart of one of the continent鈥檚 biggest entertainment moments. But rather than simply showing up as a sponsor, the brand created an experience that felt intentional, immersive, and deeply connected to the spirit of the night.

At the centre of Don Julio鈥檚 AMVCA presence was The Don鈥檚 Table  a symbolic and curated space designed to honour individuals whose commitment to their craft has earned them defining moments of recognition.

Inspired by the legacy of Don Julio Gonz谩lez, the experience celebrated the discipline, passion, and years of dedication that often exist behind extraordinary success. It became a moment not just of recognition, but of reflection.

This year, Don Julio sponsored three of the evening鈥檚 most prestigious categories: Best Actor, Best Supporting Actress, and Best Film of the Year,  transforming each win into a larger celebration of storytelling, artistry and devotion to craft.

Hosted by Uti Nwachukwu, The Don鈥檚 Table became one of the defining highlights of the evening as winners shared intimate conversations about their journeys, the discipline behind their work and the evolving future of African cinema.

The Best Actor award went to Uzor Arukwe, popularly known as 鈥淥dogwu,鈥 whose years of consistency and memorable performances continue to establish him as one of Nollywood鈥檚 most respected talents. The announcement was met with excitement across the room, with many describing the recognition as long deserved.

For Best Supporting Actress, Linda Ejiofor-Suleiman was welcomed to The Don鈥檚 Table in recognition of her range, resilience, and ability to embody every character with authenticity and emotional depth.

The Best Film of the Year recognition went to My Father鈥檚 Shadow, with Funmbi Ogunbawo and Wale Davis recognised for a project that reflects the growing global potential of African storytelling and craftsmanship,  values that naturally align with Don Julio鈥檚 philosophy.

To commemorate the moment, each winner received a specially engraved bottle of Don Julio 1942. More than a luxury gift, the engraved bottles symbolised permanence, recognition, and the celebration of earned excellence, reflecting the same level of intentionality and craftsmanship that defines the tequila itself.

Another memorable highlight of the evening came during the Don Julio 1942 toast moment, where Bovi Ugboma led guests in a celebratory toast to creativity, storytelling, and the people shaping the future of African entertainment.

Don Julio鈥檚 presence also extended to the AMVCA red carpet through its Fashion Icon of the Night, Uche Montana, who made a striking appearance in a custom design by Tubo Bereni. Inspired by the rise of a phoenix, the look symbolised transformation, strength, reinvention, and ambition. The themes mirrored both the spirit of the AMVCA and Don Julio鈥檚 philosophy around evolution and earned success.

The Best Supporting Actress recognition was presented by Ose Head, Head of Media & Content alongside Uche Montana, further reinforcing Don Julio鈥檚 commitment to celebrating creativity and cultural excellence across multiple touchpoints.

What made Don Julio鈥檚 presence at the AMVCA stand out was its ability to move beyond traditional sponsorship into something more culturally meaningful. The brand did not simply attach itself to a prestigious event; it created moments that honoured the people behind the stories, recognised the years of unseen dedication required to achieve excellence, and celebrated the craftsmanship that continues to shape African entertainment.

As African cinema, fashion, and storytelling continue to gain global recognition, Don Julio remains committed to celebrating the creators, visionaries, and storytellers pushing culture forward across the continent.

About Don Julio Tequila

Founded on the devotion and craft of Don Julio Gonz谩lez in 1942, Don Julio Tequila is the world鈥檚 original luxury tequila. Crafted in the highlands of Jalisco, Mexico, the brand remains committed to the highest quality standards, resulting in a portfolio that includes Don Julio Blanco, Reposado, A帽ejo, and the ultra-premium 1942. Don Julio celebrates the moment of earned achievement, recognising the effort that leads to extraordinary success.

                                                         

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Why Therapy Still Feels Out of Reach for Most Nigerians /citizen/do-nigerians-believe-in-therapy/ Fri, 08 May 2026 17:11:23 +0000 /?p=376737 Someone you know needs mental health assistance, maybe that someone is you. You know they (or you) should talk to someone. But you didn’t say it because you already knew the next question would be 鈥淭alk to whom and with what money?鈥  

Despite the laws that have been passed, growing public interest in taking mental health seriously, and renewed government attention, mental healthcare is still mostly inaccessible to the average citizen in 2026.

In this piece, we鈥檒l probe why that is and what it means for the average Nigerian. 

Mental health in Nigeria

of Nigerians are living with some form of mental illness. That is roughly one in four people. Depression and anxiety are among the most common, but the spectrum runs wider than most people acknowledge, from burnout to stress psychosis and PTSD.

The burden falls unevenly across gender lines. Depression and anxiety disorders occur at as in men. Postpartum depression is common but wildly underdiagnosed, particularly compared to conditions that more visibly affect men. Sexual violence, which is prevalent in Nigeria and disproportionately targets women, frequently leads to PTSD; women are twice as likely as men to develop the condition. Yet because many of these experiences go unreported and the healthcare system offers little support, many people are left suffering in silence.

Substance use is another dimension of the crisis that rarely gets named alongside mental health conversations, even though the two are deeply connected. Many Nigerians turn to substances as coping mechanisms when emotional support is unavailable, unaffordable, or stigmatised. Burnout, driven by economic pressure and unstable infrastructure, seems to have become a .

Do something with these laws

In January 2023, President Muhammadu Buhari the National Mental Health Act of 2021 into law, marking a historic moment that replaced the 1916 Lunacy Act that governed mental health policy in Nigeria for over a century. The new law was established to protect the rights of people with mental health conditions, prioritise voluntary treatment, and signal a shift toward a modern, humane approach to mental healthcare.

As is common with the implementation and adoption of laws in Nigeria, only two states,聽 Lagos and Ekiti, have the act as of May 2026, but key provisions, like the establishment of a dedicated Mental Health Department, remain unimplemented. The Federal Ministry of Health (FMoH) has also not provided any updates on when this department will be created, and there is no mention of it on its website.

Screenshot of the Federal Ministry of Health department page from the website

One doctor to one million patients 

According to the Association of Psychiatrists in Nigeria (APN), as of 2024, Nigeria had fewer than serving a population of over 200 million. The psychiatrist-to-patient ratio is 1 psychiatrist per 10,000 patients. Yet, with Nigeria’s at 240 million, the ratio currently stands at 1 psychiatrist to 960,000 patients. 

This shortage is a result of decades of underfunding medical education and a near-total absence of strong mental health infrastructure in both urban and rural areas of the country. Public like the Yaba Psychiatric Hospital in Lagos, Aro Neuropsychiatric Hospital in Abeokuta, and the Federal Neuropsychiatric Hospital in Kaduna, are designed to handle the most severe cases, and the numbers show they are already overwhelmed.

If you find a therapist, can you afford them? 

Private therapy sessions in cities like Lagos and Abuja cost 鈧15,000 to 鈧50,000 per session, with each lasting about 45 to 60 minutes. Online therapy services offer more competitive pricing, typically ranging from 鈧8,000 to 鈧25,000 per session, and some offer subscription tiers.

Nigeria’s minimum wage is 鈧70,000 per month, and a single therapy session could consume half of that. For most Nigerians, particularly those outside Lagos and Abuja, or those in the informal economy,  consistent quality therapy is simply not a financial possibility.

Health insurance does not close the gap. The does not explicitly cover mental health treatments in its standard benefits package. Mental healthcare is almost entirely an out-of-pocket expense for Nigerians who can afford it. 

All talk but no workings 

There are signs that the federal government understands the scale of the problem and its importance, even if action has been slow.

The Chairman of the NHIA, Senator Ibrahim Yahaya Oloriegbe, for a dedicated 鈧4 billion mental health fund in Nigeria’s 2026 budget, specifically to improve access for vulnerable groups amid rising rates of substance abuse and suicide.

But attempted suicide is still a crime in Nigeria. A person who survives a suicide attempt can, by law, be imprisoned for up to one year. 

The federal government in September 2025 that it intends to decriminalise attempted suicide via amendments to the Mental Health Act, which, when approved, will be set for presentation as an Executive Bill. That process was supposed to be by December 2025, but it has not been.

鈥淭hey will say I鈥檓 possessed鈥

Policy gaps and funding shortfalls are measurable, but you see stigma and social conditioning? Those are harder to quantify, but still very much real.

A 2020 conducted by professors at Northwestern University, Chicago, on mental health stigma among university healthcare students in Nigeria, suggests that stigma and label avoidance are significant barriers to mental healthcare in Nigeria. Seeking therapy is still widely read, in many Nigerian communities, as an admission that something is fundamentally broken about you. 

Nigeria, being a deeply religious country, also contributes to this floating stigma. Religious frequently interpret mental illnesses through a spiritual lens, labelling them as demonic attacks, curses, or punishment for sin, which in turn leads to a prioritisation of prayer and deliverance over medical care. 

The same Northwestern study corroborates this claim. Among the respondents, 92.68% stated they would pray sometimes when feeling depressed or anxious. Nearly a quarter (24.69%) of respondents say mental illness is sometimes caused by sin, and 21.95% believe evil spirits sometimes cause mental illness.

Perhaps this tells what happens when a healthcare system fails so thoroughly that spiritual intervention becomes the only, seemingly viable, accessible alternative.

Are you listening?

The 鈧4 billion fund, if approved and properly administered, would be meaningful. The decriminalisation of suicide attempts, when it finally happens, will matter. Still, neither of those things will mean much to someone who cannot afford a single session, cannot find a provider in their state, or cannot tell their family they are struggling without risking their reputation.

The conversation about mental health in Nigeria has never been louder. The question for 2026 is whether the government is listening well enough to act and fast enough for the people who cannot afford to wait.

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On the Streets: I Almost Turned to Fraud Just to Keep Up With My Older Girlfriend /ships/on-the-streets-older-girlfriend/ Mon, 04 May 2026 16:13:46 +0000 /?p=376517 On the Streets is a 91大神 weekly series about the chaos of modern dating: from situationships and endless talking stages,聽 to heartbreak and everything it means to be single in today鈥檚 world.


Justin* (29) has spent most of his dating life chasing women older than him. What started from a childhood crush slowly turned into a pattern that shaped his love life. But after one relationship left him stretched thin and heartbroken, he鈥檚 started to question if his type has been working against him all along.聽

What鈥檚 your current relationship status, and how do you feel about it?

I鈥檓 single, and my preferences have a lot to do with that. I鈥檓 drawn to older women, but it hasn鈥檛 really worked out for me. I鈥檓 trying to change because I know it鈥檚 affected my dating life.

I see. When did you first realise this preference?

When I was 11, I developed a crush on a 19-year-old family friend. She lived close by, and my mum would sometimes ask her to look after my siblings and me. It was obvious she preferred me to the rest of them. She always complimented my looks, and I confided in her more than anyone else.

Nothing inappropriate happened, but we were very close, and I held on to those feelings for a long time. Even after she left for university, we stayed in touch. We鈥檇 call each other, and she鈥檇 sometimes buy me gifts. I was too scared to tell her how I felt. We eventually drifted apart and that hurt, but I moved on.

At 15, I dated someone my age, but it didn鈥檛 last a term. In SS1, I got involved with a girl in SS3, and that was when I began suspecting I had a preference for older women.

Did you try to date within your age group in university?

I did, but it didn鈥檛 work out. I met Samiat* through my roommate, who had gone to the same secondary school as her. We became friends because she visited him often, and over time, I realised I liked her. We started dating in 2017.

It was a good relationship at first, but she relied on me too much. She expected me to think for her, even academically. She constantly  asked for help with assignments and projects, and it drained me.

The effort wasn鈥檛 mutual. She didn鈥檛 show the same interest in my life or work. At some point, it stopped feeling like a relationship and started feeling one-sided. There wasn鈥檛 a defining moment that led to our breakup. I just got tired and ended things in our final year.

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Did you meet anyone else after school?

Not immediately. I had a few talking stages, but even during NYSC, I found myself crushing on an older woman at work. I didn鈥檛 act on it. I stayed single until I met Esther* in 2022.

Tell me about Esther

We met at a club and danced together. There was instant chemistry. We talked on Instagram for weeks before exchanging numbers.

I was 25; she was 30. She hesitated  when I told her my age, and I think that affected how seriously she took me. But I kept showing up for her. I was attentive and thoughtful until she eventually agreed to date me. 

Nice. How did that relationship go?

It was good in many ways. We had a strong connection, but she kept parts of her life away from me. I never met her friends, and she was very private about her past.

It made me feel like she didn鈥檛 take me seriously. I kept trying to prove my maturity and that created pressure. There was also the financial gap. She was more established, while I was still struggling to land a good job after service. She never complained and sometimes helped, but I felt ashamed.

When she relocated to another state later that year, things got worse. I started to feel secondary. When I asked why she鈥檇 become distant, she said that I鈥檇 understand life better when I got older and climbed the ladder. Those words triggered me. We had a big argument , and it led to our breakup.

She apologised later, and we reconnected briefly, but it was the same pattern. After a few months, I walked away and blocked her.

That must have been hard.

It was. But a few months later, I met Ngozi* at a pop-up event. She sold beaded bags, and since I鈥檓 also creative, we bonded easily. We exchanged numbers, but she avoided me at first because she鈥檇 initially told me she was 30. She later admitted she was actually three years older.

Hmmm

I already knew she was older than me, so it didn鈥檛 matter. What I liked about her was how open she was. She鈥檇 just come out of a long-term relationship, so we stayed friends for a few months before dating.

But that relationship came with its own challenges. She needed constant reassurance and was very conscious of her age. The biggest issue, though, was that she wanted marriage soon.

Was that something you had remotely considered ?

No. I was 26 and barely surviving on a 200k salary. I didn鈥檛 feel ready, even though I might have tried for her. I just couldn鈥檛 give her a clear timeline.

The relationship became financially  draining. I tried to meet her expectations by giving gifts and showing up, even when it stretched me. I didn鈥檛 want to feel babied, so I pushed myself. But deep down, I couldn鈥檛 imagine getting married in that state, and I knew my parents wouldn鈥檛 approve.

I kept stalling. She had always said she wanted marriage by 35, but the breakup still shocked me.

In October last year, she met someone else through church who was ready. I didn鈥檛 understand how she could walk away from a two-year relationship  for someone new, but she was certain, so she ended our relationship.

I鈥檓 sorry. How did that make you feel?

I felt cheated. I was a wreck for the rest of the year. She eventually married him in January this year, and it鈥檚 been hard to process.

The past few months have been tough. I keep wondering if I set myself up for heartbreak. I can鈥檛 even fully blame her because I wasn’t at the stage she needed.

Now, I鈥檓 starting to accept what happened. Going forward, I鈥檒l be more cautious. It would take someone who genuinely wants me and understands me for me to try again with an older woman.

That sounds fair. How have your experiences shaped your idea of love and relationships?

I鈥檝e learnt not to pressure myself to meet someone else鈥檚 expectations, especially financially. I stretched myself too much in that last relationship. I almost went into fraud because of how desperate I was to meet her demands.

I鈥檝e also realised how important timing is. Being at the same stage of life matters more than I thought.

Finally, how are the streets treating you? Rate it on a scale of 1 to 10.

4/10. I don鈥檛 enjoy being single. Maybe it鈥檚 because I鈥檓 still hurting from my last relationship. I hope to feel better about it once I get to a better place emotionally.


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I Can Explain: I Plan To Ghost My Best Friend Before Her 30th Birthday /general/ghost-best-friend-birthday/ Mon, 04 May 2026 13:32:30 +0000 /?p=376499 Divine* (29) knows what it feels like to be iced out by people she called her best friends. She thought the sting of being excluded was something she鈥檇 left behind in secondary school. But after reconnecting with the same clique years later, one accidental discovery has her convinced that some betrayals never really end.  

Now, with one of those friends鈥 milestone birthday around the corner, Divine has a choice to make: confront them, or disappear without a word. 

This is Divine鈥檚 explanation as told to Betty:

I met Temi* on my first day in JSS 1. We were assigned seats next to each other and became fast friends. Soon, our friend group grew to include two other girls in our set, Deola* and Esther*. We became a popular clique in school, and I saw all of them as my best friends.

All this changed after a mid-term break in SS1. When we resumed, all three of the girls refused to speak to me. I kept asking whether I had done something to offend them, but I was met with silence. Only Temi wrote me a note explaining things. She told me that Esther had convinced the group that I wasn鈥檛 cool enough to be friends with them now that we were seniors.

I felt hurt and confused. I kept thinking about what could have triggered their decision to cut me out. I couldn鈥檛 pinpoint anything, but I couldn鈥檛 help but think about how they had been showing hints of their betrayal a while before taking action. I remembered how they鈥檇 have secret phone calls without me, or how they鈥檇 suddenly change the topic once I walked up to them during break time.

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Alone, I withdrew into myself for over a week before they all came to apologise.

They never gave me any concrete reason for how they acted, but I 鈥榝orgave鈥 them because I was desperate for things to return to normal. Still, I never fully trusted them again. This event affected me more than I鈥檇 like to admit. I became a serial ghoster after that. Once I get a whiff of conflict or stress within a relationship, I vanish. Temi and I went to the same university, so we remained close. However, we drifted apart from the other girls who went to other universities.

Temi is turning 30 this June and has decided she wants a big dinner with her closest friends. When she added me to the group, I saw Esther and Deola there. The four of us hopped on a video call and reconnected properly. We decided to revive our friend group since we all live in the same city again. Soon, though, I noticed them moving weird. My work takes me to many events that have celebrities. Usually, I would take Temi with me whenever I had a plus one. Now that we鈥檙e four again, I guess Esther and Deola felt a bit left out since I never offered to take either of them.

In March, I went to another event with Temi. While there, she left her phone with me to go to the bathroom. While I was holding on to it, a bunch of WhatsApp notifications came in from a group chat called 鈥淩eal Sistas -1鈥. I was curious because the new group chat we鈥檇 created was called 鈥淪istas.鈥

The messages were from Esther and Deola, and they were making insulting comments about me. Saying that I thought I was better than them. It was as if I got teleported back to SS1, standing on the edge of a group of people I thought were my friends. I read what I could from the notification bubbles and put the phone down. I didn鈥檛 tell Temi what I saw, and I didn鈥檛 change my behaviour towards any of them. The fact that they鈥檙e comfortable saying those things to Temi probably means she鈥檚 saying her own rubbish too.

I can鈥檛 be sure. What I know is that I鈥檓 not dealing with their rubbish at my big age. I plan to ghost them all right before Temi鈥檚 birthday. I鈥檝e been counting down since I read those messages. I will not be there, and I won鈥檛 be telling anyone why. I told my older sister about what鈥檚 been happening, and she thinks I should talk to Temi since we鈥檝e been the closest in the group. She doesn鈥檛 think ghosting is a fair way to treat a friendship that lasted that many years.

I disagree.

I don鈥檛 have anything to say to people who鈥檝e been gossiping behind my back. The day before the dinner, I鈥檓 blocking everyone of them without a word. Thank God I haven鈥檛 paid my share of the contributions.

I know it will probably mar her day, but I don鈥檛 feel bad at all. She has a group chat she can vent to; she鈥檒l be okay.


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“I Genuinely Loved Every Scene” 鈥 Justin UG On His First Feature Movie /general/justin-ug-on-acting-his-first-feature-movie/ Thu, 30 Apr 2026 14:30:37 +0000 /?p=376362 was asleep when the texts came in. He鈥檇 gone to bed on one of those days where it felt like nothing was clicking. Just that particular flavour of restlessness that lives in the space between where you are and where you’re supposed to be. Then he woke up to two texts. One was from Blessing Uzzi, a producer whose credits speak for themselves. The other was from , a director he鈥檇 long admired. He didn鈥檛 know yet that they were working on the same thing. He just knew that something was happening.

The message from Dammy Twitch read, 鈥淎re you ready for your first feature?鈥 If you know Justin UG from his skits, this moment might surprise you. But it really shouldn’t. Those skits made rounds in secondary school group chats and still live rent-free in people’s heads, but they were never the whole story. We sat with him to talk about , Nollywood legends and love.

You started out making skits. When did you know you wanted to be in actual films?

I think this was during the time of skits like , when everybody was just starting out. Even then, people doing that weren’t necessarily thinking, oh my God, I want to act. It was just a new thing everybody really liked. But then I ended up getting a job as a photo and video journalist for a company. They鈥檙e now called . That’s where I learnt how to use Premiere Pro, a video editing software.

I liked the process of editing, I also liked the process of shooting, but I liked being in front of the camera more. This was in 2016, and I was like, I think I genuinely want to act. So when I got to the U.S., I decided that everything I do onwards will be to lead me to that position.

How did the events of you starring in Call of My Life come to be? Can you share the story?

I love telling people this story because I think it was, first of all, God. I had just released a short video on grief. The only reason I released it was because I wanted to show people that, behind all these skits, I take acting very seriously. That was me showing a different side of myself. A week after I posted the video, I started feeling very weird. Like nothing was really clicking. I went to sleep and woke up the next day to two messages. One was from a well-known producer.

The other was from Dammy Twitch, who was the director. I saw the preview of Dammy Twitch’s message, and he said, “Are you ready for your first feature?” I’m like, bro, what is going on? I’m also receiving a message from one of my favourite directors at the same time? Eventually, Dammy told me Blessing Uzzi was going to reach out. I did the audition, and I got the role. That was my first time ever doing a formal audition. She could tell that I was scared, but she was kind enough to guide me and made sure that I really understood what I was getting into.

What was it about the character of Ezekiel that made you say yes?

The first thing was the story. I have always told myself that if I was ever going to do my first role, the story had to make sense. I don’t want people watching it to think, “What is going on here?鈥 So the story being genuinely interesting was big for me. And then when they told me my character, I was like, okay. It was a very, very important supporting role. It鈥檚 one of those roles where when it’s your time to shine, you better shine. I was very grateful for that, honestly.

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Comedy skits and feature films are different veins in entertainment. What surprised you the most about the process of making a full film?

Seeing every single moving part come together to make something successful. I realised there are so many things involved in making a movie, so many people involved. This project would literally fail if just one of those pieces goes missing.

Also experiencing how everybody comes together to make something work by every means possible. Even when there鈥檚 no light and Nigeria is happening. Everybody is still very much active and trying to make sure the project is successful. With skits, it’s just me and my camera. With movies, you need proper planning. The amount of planning that goes into making a film genuinely surprised me.

What was the most fun scene you shot, and what was the hardest part of it for you?

I enjoyed shooting every single scene, I really did. But there was a scene with where we both had to share the screen for the first time, just the two of us, nobody else. And I was nervous because Beverly is somebody.

You know her from Wedding Party; she’s been on TV. I’m supposed to be in a scene alone with this person. But we actually did it, and I really, really loved that scene. When the movie is out, you’ll know exactly which scene I’m talking about.

You’re sharing the screen with Nkem Owoh and Patience Ozokwor. What’s that like as a younger actor?

Who would have thought that for my first-ever feature film, I would be with legends? You cannot talk about Nollywood without mentioning these people. I’m just genuinely grateful and fulfilled to even be in the same project as them. It’s crazy. I’m speechless. They didn’t even tell me until the first day on set. They said, “Oh yeah, and are in this鈥. I said, 鈥淲hat?鈥 It was amazing.

Broda Shaggi is also in the film. Was it beneficial to have someone from the same background as you?

Not necessarily, because I didn’t know was in it until the day before we were supposed to shoot our scene together. He played the role of our boss in the movie. Before then, I was asking who our boss was, and they said, Broda Shaggi. I said that’s crazy. That was actually my first time meeting him. It was a really great time.

But I wouldn鈥檛 say it was beneficial. It was just really nice to see familiar faces. Even if someone has done just one movie, I’m excited to work with them. So it wasn’t about the skit background; it was about being around people who have done what I want to do.

For someone doing their first feature, the director matters a lot. What made Dammy Twitch the right director for this?

A bad director could literally spoil a good script. I’ve known Dammy Twitch for a long time, and we’re kind of friends. So when I got to Nigeria and went to his office, I told him straight, Dammy, it’s my first feature. I’m not about to flop on this movie. I don’t want a situation where you tell me this is good, we can manage, because I don’t want to be managed. Tell me when something isn’t right.

The way he communicates is amazing. After he’s watched a take, you’ll just see him walk toward you, and you already know he’s about to tell you something important. He’d pull you to the side and say, okay, I think you could do this better, show me more. And then there’s the Shakespeare moment from the .

That wasn’t in the script. Dammy called me to the side after a scene and said, “Show me something.鈥 We shot it. Immediately after, he said that was exactly what he needed. He’s such a good director.

Call of My Life seems to be a story about healing from heartbreak and finding love again. Is that personal to you?

One thousand percent. It’s a very relatable story and it’s also very personal. Lowkey, let me not cast everybody, but yes. It’s personal. We were all talking about our love lives at some point on set and it was so beautiful. It’s a story that everybody would be able to relate to.

Do you believe in the kind of love this film is selling?

I’m a lover boy, so yes. I believe it’s very possible. It starts off with a love where you’re giving more than you鈥檙e receiving. Then it transpires into this whole new phase where you’re doubting a new thing because of what you’ve experienced from your old thing. Just because the emotions are new and pure.

But when you eventually let it blossom, it’s just beautiful. It’s a totally different experience. It’s not just one type of love shown throughout, there are different stages. And I believe all of that is possible in real life. How it happened exactly, maybe not. But the feelings? Very possible.

Looking at where you started and where you are now, where do you see acting taking you?

First, I want people to see this project, because I think it would sink into people’s heads that, okay, this guy is really serious. That’s something I really tried with every scene I was in. After that, I’m going to start doing more auditions and taking acting classes, just to see what’s next.

I’m very open to working with different producers, as far as the story is great and makes sense. But I’m not in a rush to get into just anything. What’s for me will be for me and what’s not, I shouldn’t stress myself about it. I’m just going to keep auditioning, keep learning, and see how God leads.


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The Creative Blueprint 2.0 Convenes Industry Leaders to Empower the Next Generation of Women /her/the-creative-blueprint-empowers-the-next-generation-of-women/ Wed, 01 Apr 2026 14:49:41 +0000 /?p=374695 Lagos, March 19, 2026 鈥 The second edition of The Creative Blueprint brought together leading voices across film, media, music, fashion, beauty, and technology in Lagos, reinforcing its position as a growing platform dedicated to shaping the future of women in the creative economy.

Anchored by filmmaker and industry powerhouse Funke Akindele, the masterclass featured a lineup of influential speakers, including Wangi Mba-Uzoukwu, Mojisola Hunponu-Wusu, Tara Durotoye, Tobi Ayeni, and Financial Jennifer, alongside panellists such as Toke Makinwa, Niniola Apata, Gbemi Olateru-Olagbegi, KieKie, Rima Tahini, Bisola Aiyeola, and Jade Osiberu. Conversations centred on creative entrepreneurship, brand building, content monetisation, and navigating sustainable careers in the creative industry.

Beyond the discussions, the event featured a series of activations designed to spotlight and reward emerging talent. A monologue competition gave participants the opportunity to earn roles in Funke Akindele鈥檚 upcoming blockbuster, while select attendees received scholarships to a music academy and cash prizes through a raffle draw.

The experience was further elevated by live performances, opening with a powerful national anthem rendition by legendary vocalist Yinka Davis, featuring performances from Vocal Monix, and closing with a performance by singer-songwriter Fave.

Built around the theme 鈥淕iving Today, Gaining Tomorrow,鈥 the event positioned itself as a platform for intentional growth and access. In her address, Funke Akindele emphasised that 鈥渨hat you invest in yourself today will shape who you become tomorrow,鈥 encouraging participants to engage actively and apply what they learned.

Since its inception, The Creative Blueprint has continued to bridge the gap between potential and opportunity, building a growing community of creatives and industry leaders committed to advancing women in the creative economy.

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5 Phyno Hits to Get You Ready for Tiger Beer鈥檚 Easter Shutdown in Enugu /announcements/5-phyno-hits-to-get-you-ready-for-tiger-beers-easter-shutdown/ Tue, 31 Mar 2026 09:55:56 +0000 /?p=374567

Tiger Beer is taking over Easter Weekend with Phyno on April 5th with The Phyno Experience at the International Conference Centre (ICC), and you don’t want to miss it. 

Let鈥檚 be honest, Easter in the East is never quiet. From family gatherings to street parties and church celebrations, the East marks Easter with loud, roaring parties and communal gatherings. This year, Tiger Beer is tapping into this spirit for its Big Fiesta celebrations by hosting the biggest concert of the season, The Phyno Experience.

A perfect embodiment of the Eastern vibe, Phyno鈥檚 biggest hits are a mix of church and street anthems. So before you step out for Tiger Beer’s The Phyno Experience, here are 5 Phyno songs to get you fully in the mood.

1. Fada fada (Ghetto gospel)

If you grew up in the East, you already know this is not just a song; it鈥檚 a movement. From speakers to church Thanksgiving services, Fada Fada carries that rare energy that blends gratitude with groove. It鈥檚 the kind of track that makes you dance and reflect at the same time, the perfect way to start your Easter weekend. 

2. Alobam

No introduction needed, this song is the peak embodiment of Eastern pride and energy. Featured on Phyno鈥檚 debut album 鈥淣o Guts No Glory鈥, this song became a movement, and you couldn鈥檛 step out in Enugu in 2014 without hearing it. It turns every listening experience into a mini party and is the perfect hype anthem to get you ready for the Phyno Experience.

3. Agu

This song, which translates to “Tiger/Leopard” in English, will have you feeling untouchable and energised with its chorus that draws from the famous Igbo saying 鈥淥ne does not argue with the tiger鈥. With a cold bottle of Tiger Beer in your hand and this song coming through your speakers, you can already feel the rising anticipation for The Phyno Experience on Sunday.

4. Uzo Ano

For those who like a more soulful vibe to ease them into the mood, this is the song for you. This fresh collaboration between Phyno and the self-described 鈥淕od in the East鈥, Flavour, is a prayer and a testimony wrapped in one. This track carries both cultural weight and emotional depth. It鈥檚 the kind of song that grounds you before the energy rises, setting the tone for everything Sunday night is about to become.

5. Grateful

This is what you will be singing when the party is over, because Tiger Beer and Phyno would have uncaged your inner tiger鈥攜our most ferocious, powerful self. A song rooted in gratitude and confidence, it reflects that moment after the party, when you take it all in and feel proud of your experience. After a night like The Phyno Experience, you will have a lot to be grateful for.

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CODM x Infinix NOTE 60 Series /general/codm-x-infinix-note/ Thu, 26 Mar 2026 16:14:36 +0000 /?p=374164

Infinix, an innovation-driven brand, today announced a landmark collaboration with one of the world鈥檚 most popular action mobile games, Call of Duty: Mobile. This collaboration establishes a global alliance between the two powerhouses, centered on the newly launched Infinix NOTE Edge and NOTE 60 Series.

Focused on delivering immersive gaming experiences and fostering global player communities, the partnership aims to expand access to premium gaming experiences across Latin America, Brazil, India, and Africa. The collaboration highlights optimized performance on the NOTE Edge and NOTE 60 Series for Call of Duty: Mobile, a global weapon skin design contest, and a series of regional community events.

“Our partnership with Call of Duty: Mobile transforms the NOTE 60 Series into a platform where mobile users can co-create, compete, and connect with global communities,” said TT Liu, CMO of Infinix Mobility. “Through this collaboration, we deliver immersive, high-performance experiences that empower the next generation to express themselves and explore new frontiers.”

“Call of Duty: Mobile is dedicated to providing the ultimate gaming experience and fostering vibrant communities on a global scale,” said Jeffrey Gullett, Senior Director of Production for Call of Duty: Mobile. “Partnering with Infinix reinforces our commitment to provide optimized gameplay performance on latest devices across the world. By combining technical excellence with localized cultural activations, we are setting a new standard for mobile gaming in these key regions.”

Beyond Branding:  Engineering the NOTE Series for Mobile Gaming

As part of the partnership, the Infinix NOTE Edge and NOTE 60 Series have been optimized specifically for Call of Duty: Mobile to deliver smooth, high-performance gameplay for mobile gamers.

Through joint optimization, the devices achieve a stable 120FPS聽 during intense engagements in Call of Duty: Mobile. Audio is enhanced with SOUND BY JBL and optimized for improved spatial clarity during matches. The devices also feature exclusive Call of Duty: Mobile-themed interface elements and wallpapers, while the NOTE 60 Pro鈥檚 Active Matrix Display incorporates a pixel-inspired design that showcases iconic Call of Duty: Mobile elements, including the M logo and Ghost.聽

Global Co-Creation: The AK117 Weapon Skin Design Contest
Empowering the global community, Infinix and Call of Duty: Mobile have launched DESIGN and DOMINATE: Infinix NOTE Series x Call of Duty: Mobile Weapon Skin Design Contest. Fans worldwide are invited to submit original designs for the iconic AK117 weapon, inspired by the premium aesthetics of the NOTE 60 Series.

  • Timeline: Submissions are open from March 20 to April 13
  • Process: The top 9 designs will be shortlisted and opened to global voting starting April 17.
  • The Prize: The winning design, announced on May 13, will be developed by the Call of Duty: Mobile team into a playable in-game weapon skin. Additional prizes include 100,000 COD Points, Infinix Product Family Set and Infinix Call of Duty: Mobile Co-Branded Merch.



Localized Ecosystem Activation: Where Gaming Meets 颁耻濒迟耻谤别听
Understanding the unique pulse of each region, the partnership features tailored activations that position the NOTE 60 Series at the forefront聽 of gaming, music, and local identity.

Latin America: Call of Duty: Mobile Barrios Latinos by Infinix NOTE 60 Series

  • Merging mobile gaming and urban culture, “Barrios Latinos” brings together players from iconic neighborhoods across Latin America on one competitive stage, powered by the Infinix NOTE 60 Series as the Official Gaming Phone and Co-Presenter. The Grand Finals will take place on April 18 at the House of Vans in Mexico City and will be streamed live across the region, featuring Latin freestyle rap performances from top artists like Aczino and Marithearap alongside Call of Duty: Mobile creators.

India: Call of Duty: Mobile District Showdown by Infinix NOTE 60 Pro

  • Designed to spark local pride, the “District Showdown” is a city-versus-city tournament where players battle for the glory  while representing their hometown. Supported by top Indian Call of Duty: Mobile  creators, this high-energy offline event will be broadcast nationwide, positioning the Infinix NOTE 60 Pro as the essential tool for competitive mobile gamers in India.

Africa: Call of Duty: Mobile Creators College powered by Infinix NOTE Edge

  • Focused on nurturing creator talent, the “Creators College” will be hosted in Lagos, Nigeria from March 25-28, 2026. This intensive program brings together world-class creators like Kingplays and iFerg to mentor local talent in content creation and community management. Participants will receive Infinix NOTE Edge Creator Kits, empowering the next generation of African gaming creators.

Key Dates to Remember

  • Global Weapon Skin Design Contest
  • March 20: Skin Design Contest submissions open.
  • April 13: Skin Design Contest submission deadline.
  • April 17: Top 9 finalists announced; global voting begins.
  • May 8: Global voting closes.
  • May 13: Winner announced.
  • Regional Activations
  • March 25-28: Creator College (Lagos, Nigeria)
  • April 18: Barrios Latinos Grand Finals (Mexico City, Mexico)
  • April 24-25: District Showdown Grand Finals (New Delhi, India)

Click to download Call of Duty庐: Mobile for free.

About Infinix

Established in 2013, Infinix is an innovation-driven brand dedicated to delivering cutting-edge technology, bold design, and outstanding performance. The brand provides smart, enjoyable mobile experiences that enhance everyday life. Beyond smartphones, Infinix has expanded its portfolio to include TWS earbuds, smartwatches, laptops, tablets, smart TVs, and more鈥攂uilding a comprehensive ecosystem of smart devices. Currently, Infinix products are available in over 70 countries and regions worldwide, including Africa, Latin America, the Middle East, South Asia, and Southeast Asia.


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鈥淵our Disgrace Will Outlive You鈥: 5 Reasons Why Your Talking Stages Fail /general/why-your-talking-stage-is-still-a-talking-stage/ Mon, 23 Mar 2026 15:27:14 +0000 /?p=373796 We鈥檙e still having our weekly Spaces, and it’s important to know just how much you鈥檝e been missing out on if you haven鈥檛 been following. Recently, 91大神 brought three of your Instagram and X favourites to talk about Talking Stage Fatigue: Why People are Done with Undefined Relationships. 

, Content Creator and , also known as BigBadReni on X, and founder of Amplify Her, shared useful trade secrets as our speakers on the episode, while journalist and writer, kept the conversation going between our speakers and the crowd. 

We had many takeaways from the conversation, but we鈥檝e saved the best for you. Here are X reasons why you keep going from talking stage to talking stage (respectfully). 

1. You Care Too Much About Optics and Not The Person 

Apparently, you鈥檙e not supposed to think of the social currency and elevation you might get if things go well with your talking stage. If you鈥檝e only been thinking about how well you sync in a TikTok video or how best to soft or hard launch them, your priorities are not in order. Optics and aesthetics come second, while your actual compatibility with the person comes first. Get to know the person you鈥檙e speaking to properly and get to know them out of genuine interest. Let first base go beyond sex after a night of sweating and gyrating. 

Tito says 鈥淭he concept of social media makes us too concerned with what people think about us. The optics and the aesthetics of it. If you鈥檙e speaking to someone, it鈥檚 not foreign to think of what your pictures will look like when you post. You鈥檒l be thinking of whether your pictures will look nice on Instagram or if you鈥檒l look good together in pictures,鈥

For Reni, her view is slightly different. 鈥淚n Lagos, it is very normal for first base to be just raw sex. You want to hard launch someone, but then you don鈥檛 know whether or not they鈥檙e cheating on you. You鈥檙e dating someone, and everyone is waiting for you to find out they鈥檙e cheating on you. I think social media helps people actually curate their lives because now, a lot of people prefer soft launches.鈥

2. You鈥檙e Ashamed of Yourself 

It鈥檚 2026, and everyone is scared of being vulnerable. Everyone is scared of being vulnerable because no one wants to turn to content. No one wants to turn to content because your disgrace will outlive you. Let鈥檚 be honest, the only way to really get to know someone and deepen emotional intimacy is through vulnerability. But when everyone is watching their front and back, it’s difficult to know when and who we can be safe with. However, if you鈥檙e serious about love and your person, it should mean nothing with the added fact that they feel the same, of course. 

Reni believes that the essence of vulnerability has been reduced. 鈥淰ulnerability has become cringe because we make a spectacle of everything. People are waiting for your downfall. Pain is amplified. Your disgrace will outlive you. These days, it鈥檚 a cool thing for people not to know anything about you. You have to gatekeep yourself, and people have to work to get information about you. Shame is the social media currency.鈥 she said.

On the other hand, public perception doesn’t affect how Tito see’s things. 鈥淎 lot of relationships and loving is about taking risks. And I think that鈥檚 why a lot of people are single, because we don鈥檛 want to take the risk of being vulnerable. And I think we have to firm the consequences of shame for that. It鈥檚 like we say the things we really want are on the other side of shame, so to get to that, we need to actually cross shame.鈥 he said.


Also Read: The State of Love 2026


3. You鈥檙e Doing too Much 

If you鈥檙e someone who knows what you want and what you鈥檙e looking for in a partner, great. If you鈥檙e completely clueless about what you would like your relationship to look like, even better. Our speakers agree that sometimes, saying too much too soon might scare away the other person or make them reluctant. Take your time and do your due diligence before oversharing. 

鈥淔irst of all, don鈥檛 rush into communicating what your expectations are. Also, don鈥檛 say it all at once; spread it out. The talking stage is to ask value questions, because I think a lot of people don鈥檛 pay attention to what they say in the talking stage. We also have to get to the point where we don鈥檛 feel cringe about sharing our intentions. It will make sense to the right person.鈥 According to Tito, this is the best way to maintain composure.

4. Your Eyes Are Too Big 

According to our speakers, one of the problems with talking stages these days is that people don鈥檛 know what they want. Everybody wants something because the other person has it. The factors that determine who we should date and what dating them should look like are now jumbled up into whatever it is we see on social media. Life happens in stages, and there鈥檚 nothing wrong with expecting regular things from regular people. 

Meanwhile, Reni believes that some of you have forgotten how old you really are. 鈥淚 think everybody needs to get off the internet first and foremost. Whatever it is we鈥檙e in is not going to look like what we see on screen.  I think there鈥檚 a layer of performativity and transactions that we don鈥檛 address. You can鈥檛 be 19-23 and expect that when you go on dates, it鈥檚 going to be slow and mind-blowing. When people get married and do things within their budget, we shame them for it. It鈥檚 okay to do things at your pace. Stop comparing everything you experience to what you see on screen.鈥 she said.

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5. You Imagine Things Before They Happen 

Aka, you鈥檙e delusional, and sometimes that鈥檚 okay. But delusion inflates how we see things and impacts our conduct and expectations. It鈥檚 why we鈥檙e more heartbroken when the talking stage ends than the actual relationship. We鈥檙e not saying don鈥檛 get your hopes up, but remember this is real life, and if you鈥檙e a Lagosian, well. If delusion is your problem, take a break from the dating scene and touch grass. Evaluate your previous experiences and identify the issues. 

For Tito, everybody just needs to chill. His view? 鈥淛aded people should take a break from the dating scene. Drink water and chill. A lot of people are dating without knowing what they want. It’s like getting in a car with someone without knowing where they鈥檙e going. Then you get there and realise it’s not where you want to go. Take a break. Consult one or two people who make sense.鈥

鈥淚 think a lot of people don鈥檛 realise that they鈥檙e jaded, which is why they continue to remain delusional. But if you are deluded, if you鈥檙e jaded, it鈥檚 because you鈥檝e spent too much time looking at the outside world. You need to be in touch with yourself. Kissing passionately at the rave won’t save your talking stage.鈥 Reni is certain that locking lips like there’s no tomorrow, won’t help revive dry bones.

If you think we鈥檝e covered everything that was said on the space, you鈥檙e far from right. Listen to the recording and get more trade secrets from our speakers. We promise it鈥檚 worth your while! 


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