Everybody complains about 30+ men, yet so many people are also dating them. Why dis? I鈥檝e decided to take it upon myself to do the research and find out the pros and cons of dating these old young men.
Pro: They’re more mature
I know that maturity 鈮 age (trust me, I learnt that the hard way). But most of the time, 30+ men are more mature and more put together. Many of them kuku don鈥檛 even have the time 鈥 or energy 鈥 to play childish dating games. They鈥檙e quite straightforward and mature when it comes to communication and handling certain situations.
Con: They’ll belittle your struggle and achievements
You鈥檒l be upset or sad about something, and your dear 30+ boyfriend will be looking at you somehow, wondering why you鈥檙e upset about something so “little鈥. You can鈥檛 complain about work or about the things that annoy you to him because they seem so trivial in his eyes. He鈥檒l either tell you that when you get older, these problems won鈥檛 matter or that there are bigger problems at hand. God o!
Pro: They have more experience
Because he鈥檚 been on this earth for many, many years, he鈥檚 experienced quite a few things, good and bad. That means if you鈥檙e having a problem or you need help or advice, he鈥檒l be able to help you or connect you with people that can help you.
Con: They鈥檒l use your age to insult you many times
“You鈥檙e too young, you won鈥檛 understand” is something you鈥檒l hear from your 30+ man so often you鈥檒l want to punch him in the throat. Any small thing, he鈥檒l be using your age to insult you. He鈥檒l tell you that when you鈥檙e older, you鈥檒l understand. Understand what, ehn, arugbo ojo? I don鈥檛 know why 30+ men like to feel like they鈥檙e the oldest and most experienced group of people. Only three decades that they鈥檝e been on this earth o!
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Pro: They have money
They鈥檝e been working for much longer than my GenZ happening babes, so it is more likely that they have plenty money and investments.
Con: They鈥檙e no fun
They rarely ever want to go out or do any activity that involves too much movement. Their own idea of fun is watching their favourite TV series while eating in bed. Best in back ache. God help you, you now mention going to an event at past 8 p.m. and they鈥檒l almost want to cry. You want to keep them out past their bedtime? They鈥檒l fight you.
Pro: They won鈥檛 break up with you
30+ men don鈥檛 have the strength to be in the streets. Do you think they want to be asking people their favourite foods and colours in this their old age? That鈥檚 why the moment they start dating someone, it takes a lot before they break up. If you like, come with all the wickedness in the world, they鈥檒l date you like that.
Con: You come from two different eras so you may not be able to relate to them
There鈥檚 a chance that both of you won鈥檛 be able to relate to a lot of things in regards to pop culture. (except you鈥檙e both interested in these types of things). I have a 30+ friend who just discovered that Skepta and Stormzy are two different people, and I鈥檓 still ashamed on his behalf. The worst part is when your 30+ man can鈥檛 understand GenZ slangs. You鈥檒l text him, “I don鈥檛 think that鈥檚 right imo,” and he鈥檒l be wondering what Imo state has to do with the topic you鈥檙e discussing.
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Pro: They鈥檒l get along with your parents
Simply because he鈥檚 closer to their age (I said what I said) , and they may share similar interests.
Con: They鈥檙e always tired
30+ men get tired easily. They never have energy for anything. All they want to do is rest. They can鈥檛 even stand or sit up for too long; their backs will start aching. This can also be a pro sha, because it means they also won鈥檛 have the strength for fights. If they notice any potential couple fight brewing, they鈥檒l quickly apologise.
Pro: They want to marry early
If you鈥檙e someone who鈥檚 looking to get married in the next two to three years of your life, you should date a 30+ man, especially the ones that are edging closer to 40 and feel like the next big step for them is to get married.
Con: They want to marry early
Then again, if you鈥檙e someone who isn鈥檛 ready to get married anytime soon, don鈥檛 let your eyes look in the direction of a 30+ man. Because they may not understand why you aren鈥檛 ready for marriage when they are ready.
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