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  • The One Thing My Nigerian Dad Taught Me

    “My dad taught me to dream big and not let society hold me back because I鈥檓 a woman. He was my life and my confidant, and losing him was the most painful thing ever.”

    Let鈥檚 be honest 鈥 many people don鈥檛 even know it鈥檚 Father鈥檚 Day until it鈥檚 that day or a day before. More often than not, global attention focuses on all the Mother鈥檚 Days in the year, with little love for the men in our lives. To fix this, we spoke to different Nigerians about their relationship with their dads and the most important thing they鈥檝e learnt from them. 

    If you haven鈥檛 bought your Father鈥檚 Day gift yet, please fix it ASAP!

    鈥淢y dad taught me how to accept friendship break-ups.鈥

     鈥 Joyce 

    My dad and I have almost nothing in common. But despite the glaring differences between us, I鈥檝e learnt a lot from him over the years. He used to tell me, 鈥淭en friends can never be together for ten years鈥, and honestly, I didn鈥檛 get it at first. In my head, I believed that my friends would be in my life forever. However, the older I got, the more I understood what he was trying to say. While it鈥檚 true that ten friends might not end up being friends forever, it鈥檚 not the end of the world. So these days, I take every friendship loss in good stride 鈥 we had our good times and bounced. It鈥檚 life. 

    Fun fact, my dad also gave me my first sip of alcohol. He doesn鈥檛 know I鈥檓 a huge drinker now, but he unleashed a demon that day. 

    鈥淢y dad taught me it鈥檚 wicked to owe someone money and not pay it back.鈥 

    鈥 Bertram 

    Even though my dad had about 16 children, he made sure he had a close relationship with all of us. One major lesson he passed down to us was learning how to live within our means. My dad hated owing people. He didn鈥檛 want to lay awake at night, scared that someone would start knocking on his door demanding their money. 

    He also taught me the importance of leaving a good legacy behind. Almost 20 years have passed since he died, but people still offer to help me whenever I introduce myself as his son.

    鈥淢y dad taught me not to limit myself because I鈥檓 a woman.鈥 

    鈥 Chiazagom 

    My dad was special to me because he was my friend. Not everyone can say that their dad is their friend, but mine was. My dad taught me to dream big and not let society hold me back because I鈥檓 a woman. He was my life and my confidant, and losing him was the most painful thing ever. It hurts to speak of him in the past tense, but I know he鈥檇 want me to celebrate him. He deserves an award for overall best in fatherhood.

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    鈥淢y dad taught me the importance of sacrifice.鈥 

    鈥 Rita 

    My dad grumbles all the time, but one thing about him, he will come through. He has a scar on his index finger from when he used it as a wedge between my teeth when I was convulsing as a child. I had been playing outside with my other siblings when it started. Typically, wooden spoons or other hard objects work to prevent the teeth from closing and cause a locked jaw, but without thinking, he used his fingers until we got to the hospital. 

    Many more things my dad has done for me bring tears to my eyes. But that moment was the definition of putting your loved one first for me. 

    鈥淢y dad taught me not to be fazed by money or the soft life.鈥 

    鈥 Linda 

    I鈥檓 close to my dad, and he鈥檚 my favourite person after God. My dad likes to act like a tough guy, but he鈥檚 a big baby. I like to call him my sugar daddy because he spoils my siblings and me. He once took the family out to Radisson Blu for lunch, and I remember him telling us that he did all these things because he didn鈥檛 want one boy to come with a flashy lifestyle and take advantage of us. He said, 鈥淚鈥檒l spoil my girls before any other man comes along.鈥

    Because of him, I鈥檓 content and can hold my head high because he has already treated me to the good life. 

    鈥淢y dad has shown me what it means to be a hero鈥 

    鈥 Bolu

    My relationship with my dad has its ups and downs, but overall, I鈥檒l say he鈥檚 a good man. As I鈥檝e gotten older, I鈥檝e realised that he鈥檚 imperfect and human. But during this period, I鈥檝e also seen him as a hero in my life. I especially like how he carried #EndSARS on his head in 2020. He was even present for the memorial march. Even though I feel like I鈥檓 not meeting his expectations because I鈥檓 more laid back about life than he is, I still love and respect him. He鈥檚 also not the type of parent to hold back an apology when he鈥檚 wrong, which is rare. 

    鈥淢y dad taught me the importance of valuing the people around me鈥

    鈥 Ify

    My relationship with my dad has taken many forms. As a kid, before I recognised him as 鈥渕y dad鈥, he was my best friend. As a teenager, he took the dad thing seriously, and now as an adult, I see him as a human with flaws who tries his hardest to do right by those he loves. 

    He鈥檚 taught me a lot but the best thing I鈥檒l say I learnt from him is how to value people. It鈥檚 something he unconsciously taught me. As a kid, I noticed that he just somehow knew everyone. Everyone was his friend and I mean EVERYONE from 鈥渋mportant people鈥 right down to the security, the plumber, the mechanic, the people the world pretends not to see. He always treated everyone like family and they treated him/us like family too. He makes a conscious effort to make everyone feel seen and really in this stressful life, isn鈥檛 that all we ask for? 

    鈥淢y dad always showed up鈥

    鈥 Peter

    During Jamb and post jamb, my dad followed me to the exam venues. When I was given Admission, he printed my Admission letters and important documents. Not only that, he joined all my school facebook groups just so I wouldn’t miss out on anything. He also did the same for my sisters. When I was in school, he was always calling to ask after my welfare. I found him overprotective, but I realised he just cared so much about my welfare.

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