People swear they鈥檙e neither fans of calls nor texts, but does that need to change when they fall in love or enter a relationship? Can you really be interested in someone when you can鈥檛 make time to talk to them? These are the questions we had in mind when we spoke to these 8 Nigerians:
鈥淲e have at least two calls with texts in between鈥
Zo*, 28
It鈥檚 only right to talk to your partner at least once every day. When you鈥檙e not dead or haven鈥檛 gone missing, what is your problem?
My partner and I get on a call at least twice a day 鈥 one to talk about the day in view, the other to discuss how the day went 鈥 with texts at random intervals. We’ve been together for three years, and the longest we’ve gone without talking is a day because we were both really busy and ended up missing each other’s calls.
鈥淲e hadn’t spoken for 12 hours, then he showed up at my door鈥
Pelumi*, 24
There’s no limit to how often you should talk. My partner and I talk every 3-4 hours. There are a lot of calls involved, and when we can’t call, we text each other. Although we had a fight once and went a whole 12 hours without talking 鈥 I was going for 24 hours, lol 鈥 but he showed up at my door.
Being friends for a long time before dating definitely helps, but it’s still a lot of work.
鈥淚 can鈥檛 imagine anyone goes a day without talking to their partner鈥
Lola*, 26
No matter how busy I am, I’ll always find time for people who are important to me, so I鈥檇 expect the same energy. My partner and I talk every day, in the morning when we both wake up, with regular check-ins, afternoon check-ins are almost compulsory except for days when we’re very busy. And we have a rule to have evening calls because we鈥檙e intentional about communicating.
We鈥檝e never stayed a day without talking, tops we鈥檝e gone is five hours even when we were fighting. This is why I can’t imagine anyone who doesn’t talk to the person they鈥檙e dating every day.
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鈥淚f we don鈥檛 talk in 24 hours, I鈥檇 assume you missing鈥
Erigga*, 24
If you stay a whole day without talking to me, I鈥檇 probably file a missing person鈥檚 report because, why? We have to talk multiple times a day, with chats, memes and a minimum of one long phone call.
鈥淵ou should want to talk everyday鈥
Nosa*, 26
I used to think just being interested in someone meant you had to talk every day, but some things have changed, now I think you should want to talk to the person every day. So even if you don鈥檛 talk, it鈥檚 not because you don鈥檛 want to but because you just couldn鈥檛. And you should save the day鈥檚 gist for the next day when you鈥檙e filling them in on what they missed.
鈥淲e talk till I fall asleep鈥
Lisa*, 25
We have to talk every day. In fact, every hour of the day, lol. I’ve been in a relationship for a little over a year, and we talk every day. We used to talk a lot more before but it reduced with work stress and the general busyness of adulting. We make up for when we can鈥檛 talk during the day by talking at night. On some days, we would be on the call for so long that I鈥檇 fall asleep.
鈥淵ou鈥檙e allowed to take a day鈥檚 break if you give me notice鈥
Emmanuel*, 23
If you can鈥檛 call or text, except you鈥檙e quarrelling, you shouldn鈥檛 go past two days. It鈥檚 okay for one party to go a day without communicating, as long as there was prior notice, even if you just say you didn’t feel like talking that day.
鈥淲e talk everyday because my girlfriend likes it鈥
Isaac*, 28
I think how often you should talk is largely dependent on what your partner likes. I talk to my babe like three times a day. We chat almost all day, but if she didn’t want to, I鈥檇 be okay going a day without talking. There’s no one-size-fits-all with relationships. Your willingness to compromise is what matters.
Names have been changed for the sake of anonymity.
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