Sunken Ships is a 91大神 series that explores the how and why of the end of all relationships 鈥 familial, romantic or just good old friendships.
Sarah* (23) and Timi* (24), moved from 鈥渇riends of friends鈥 to 鈥渃lose friends鈥 because of their shared love for anime. But after his attempts to have sex with her didn鈥檛 work, their friendship crumbled.听
Let鈥檚 start from the beginning
Sarah: Timi and I started off as friends of friends. We knew the same people and would occasionally see each other at events. Our interactions were 鈥渉ello鈥 and 鈥渉i鈥 until March 2021, the day I met him at a friend鈥檚 place. I walked into them having an anime argument and joined in.听
Then they started talking about an anime I didn鈥檛 have. Timi offered to send it to me with his hard drive. Shey if I had known what would happen between us, I鈥檇 have found another way to watch the anime?听
What happened?
Sarah: He collected my number and later that week, called to ask if he could bring the drive over. It was a Saturday. The only reason I agreed was because I needed something to spend my weekend doing.听
After he shared the anime with me, he started asking for updates on how it turned out and my conclusion on the earlier argument.
That鈥檚 how we got close. From ranting about anime to talking about non anime things, we became friends on our own.
What was the friendship like?
Sarah: It was pretty great. He was always there for me. I remember when he came to sit with me in my house because I had cramps and was scared of being alone. We read together, attended parties and were involved in each other鈥檚 lives. His younger sister and I kept in touch quite often.
We got so close in the span of four months people started making wedding and marriage jokes. It annoyed me whenever they did, but Timi always laughed and told me not to worry about it.
He became my best friend and the marriage jokes continued. I wasn鈥檛 surprised they thought like that. He was in my house a lot. Sometimes, when people come to visit him, I鈥檓 in his house half-naked. I cook for him and bring to his house. We go out together to watch movies or beach dates. I enjoyed spending time with him, but I didn鈥檛 want to date him.听
He didn鈥檛 fit the bill for what I wanted out of my life. I love him to death but he can be a bit irresponsible. Plus, he鈥檚 the kind of person who鈥檚 a great friend but a terrible boyfriend, and it鈥檚 caused a couple of fights between us. I didn鈥檛 want to put myself through that.听
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So when did you start having problems as friends?听
Sarah: The first time he tried to kiss me. It was during a house party in February [2022] and he was drunk. Luckily for him, I decided I wouldn鈥檛 drink a lot, so I kept watching over him. At one point, I lost him when he said he was going to pee. When he finally resurfaced, he grabbed my face and said he missed me then he tried to kiss me. Since I was sober, I could dodge the kiss. He had a mini tantrum, talking about how he鈥檚 been wanting to have sex with me for a while now and I keep fucking everyone but him.听
I was shocked because I barely had sex with anyone. I chalked it up to drunk hysterics and got us home. The next morning, he didn鈥檛 act like anything happened, so I dropped it.听
The next time he tried something like that was two weeks later. I was cooking stew and he came behind me in the kitchen and started kissing my neck. I could feel his erection through his trousers. I felt weird so I pushed him off me with the excuse that I needed to use the bathroom.
Did you ever confront him about it?
Sarah: Not until the time he actually made a proper move on me in May. We were in the house together, drinking and watching a romantic movie like we do once in a while when he started rubbing my thigh. He was telling me how much he could treat me better than the men in my life, that鈥檚 why it was unfair I was sleeping with people who made me cry when he was right there. I told him to stop, but he didn鈥檛 remove his hand.听
He kept trying to make me 鈥渟ee his side鈥 鈥 that he鈥檚 been here doing all of these things for me, why don鈥檛 I want to give him a chance? I told him I didn鈥檛 see him that way and he got angry. He shouted at me and that I didn鈥檛 deserve good things and stormed off.听
Wow
Sarah: Na real wow o. I called him the next day to find out what was going on, but he didn鈥檛 pick my calls. I went to his house but he didn鈥檛 open the door for me. I was heartbroken because someone I thought was my friend was only around because he wanted to sleep with me? Did all the time we spent together mean nothing to him? I was heartbroken for months. My friends really rallied around me and helped me return all his property.
Did he ever try reaching out?
Sarah: Yes, he did. He texted to say he was sorry in September, but my best friend replied and told him to shove the apology up his smelling yansh. That made me laugh. He should go to hell.
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