On April 7, 2023, a movie titled Gangs of Lagos was released that gave insight into how thugs in Isale-Eko, Lagos, are used during Nigerian elections. However, there has been outrage from the Lagos state government recently over a scene that portrayed the Eyo masquerade as a villain. 

The Isale Eko Descendants Union released a statement on April 12, 2023, saying the movie defamed Isale Eko and the Eyo masquerade. On the same day, the Lagos state government called the film a total abomination derogating Yoruba culture. 

What鈥檚 amusing is that the Lagos state government is paying more attention to the 鈥渕isinterpretation鈥� of the Eyo masquerade than violence during elections which was the movie鈥檚 focal point. 

Is the government intentionally turning a blind eye to the message Gangs of Lagos tried to pass, or is the outrage from them performative because Nollywood is hitting too close to home this time? 

What else happened this week? 

NUPENG Raises Red Flag Over Fuel Subsidy Removal

When it comes to Nigeria, problem no dey finish. On January 5, 2023, the Minister of Finance, Budget, and National Planning reminded us again that by mid-2023, the federal government would  cease fuel subsidies. This means we鈥檒l pay up to three times more than the current fuel price.

However, the Nigeria Union of Petroleum and Natural Gas Workers (NUPENG) is warning the federal government that it may be over its head as our local refineries still aren鈥檛 operating fully. As a result, the removal of fuel subsidy might have negative economic impacts on Nigerians that the government is unprepared for. 

Hopefully, the government will work towards this and put the right structures in place to ensure that when fuel subsidies are finally removed, we won鈥檛 be plunged into multidimensional suffering. 

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Question of the week

Nigeria鈥檚 president-elect, Bola Ahmed Tinubu, was listed on the Times 100 most influential list of 2023. On a scale of 鈥渢his is a win for Nigeria鈥� to 鈥渆veryone is on drugs鈥�; what do you think about this?

Ehen one more thing鈥�

There was an unfortunate accident on April 13, 2023, where a seven-story building collapsed in Banana Island, Lagos. Here鈥檚 everything to know about the tragedy.

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Lagos State Vs. Gangs of Lagos 

Barely a week after the Prime Video original premiered, the Lagos State government put out a statement accusing Gangs of Lagos of being “derogatory to our culture” and an attempt to “desecrate the revered heritage of the people of Lagos”. 

The Lagos State government that famously unlooked and aired everyone who was attacked during the February 25 and March 18th elections of 2023 had time to make a statement dragging a Nollywood film? 

Not the first time 

This isn’t the first time the Nigerian government has dragged a Nollywood film. Ironically, the last film to experience something like this was 2019’s Sugar Rush, which was also co-written and produced by Jade Osiberu. The film, which starred Adesua Etomi-Wellington, Bisola Aiyeola and Bimbo Ademoye as sisters who must deal with the numerous owners of the $800,000 they stole, was because it portrayed the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC) in a “bad light”. 

However, thanks to the #BringSugarRushBack social media campaign, the Censors Board caved, and the film returned to the cinema before making its way to Netflix. 

Why is the Nigerian government so pressed and bothered by Nollywood all of a sudden? 

One word: 鈥渁ccountability鈥�. 

For the longest time, Nollywood has focused on basic Nigerian issues: looking for love, hustle culture, a sprinkle of backstabbing and juju here and there. But now, the focus is turning towards the corridors of power and how the people and their deals affect the average Nigerian. 

Kemi Adetiba’s King of Boys is a typical example of a story that shifted the veil between Nigerians and politics through film. In the first act, we get to see how politicians use mob leaders to do their dirty work then frown when they ask for a crumb of power for themselves, especially when the said leader is a woman like Eniola Salami. 

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King of Boy: The Return of the King delved even deeper into the drama behind the scenes of an election. The bodies, the kingmakers, the role religion plays and the family’s hoarding power for themselves; Kemi Adetiba went there. As realistic as the series was, the Nigerian government seemed unmoved. 

To start off 2023, Netflix released Shanty Town, a limited series starring Ini Edo, Chidi Mokeme and Nse Ikpe-Etim. Shanty Town focused on a group of women navigating sex and organ trafficking, violence and intimidation in a fictional shanty town in Lagos. 

While audiences praised Chidi Mokeme’s acting and debated Peter Okoye’s Femi Fernandez鈥檚 Igbo accent, we noticed slight similarities between the show’s antagonist, played by Richard Mofe Damijo, and a popular Nigerian presidential candidate. 

Tell me you can see it too. 

While the similarities between Shanty Town‘s antagonist and this political figure might be limited to their filas (Yoruba hats), Gangs of Lagos strikes an even deeper nerve with a political character hellbent on ruling Lagos state. The story is fictional, but the audience has done the math and found “x”. 

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Nollywood isn’t the first to tackle politics, and it won’t be the last

Like new Nollywood, Hollywood AKA the gold standard of filmmaking, hasn’t shied away from holding its government and political structures accountable over the years.聽

Martin Scorcesse’s 2006 film, The Departed, unearthed corruption within the American police force and ended up with a Best Picture Oscar at the 2007 Academy Awards. Similarly, Aaron Sorkin’s 2020 film, The Trial of the Chicago 7, was a masterclass in dragging the American police force, judiciary and the FBI for their role in the unfair 1969 trial of seven defendants charged with conspiracy against the government. Most recently, 2021’s Judas and the Black Messiah, directed by Shaka King, showed how the FBI murdered African-American activist, Fred Hampton, in his sleep. 

These Hollywood films premiered, showed at cinemas and walked away with awards despite flipping a middle finger at the American government. Regardless of their exaggerated storylines, they offered nuanced insight into political issues that affect people, making them relevant works of art. So why must Nollywood face a different battle? 

We need films like Gangs of Lagos 

Whether or not we liked the plot, films like Gangs of Lagos are important. 

Although it’s hard to believe people in Isale Eko fight like they’re part of Vin Diesel’s Fast and Furious crew, there’s no denying the existence of countless Obalolas, Gifts and Ifys 鈥� people who don’t get to live for themselves. They fight other people’s political battles, sometimes with no idea how their actions will impact their communities in the long run. These are the people we see snatching ballot boxes during elections. 

Films like Gangs of Lagos humanise Nigerians who live on the margin, reminding us of the puppeteers who create unfavourable conditions for Nigerians and then take advantage of the victims. If we allow the Nigerian politicians and government to silence creatives who hold up a mirror to their actions, we may never hold them accountable for their actions in the future.聽

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The trailer promised an abundance of fist swinging, high jump leg kicking and hard head nods that鈥檇 destabilise anybody. And the movie didn’t disappoint, so now, it鈥檚 time to rank all the fights that took place in the Isale Eko of Gangs of Lagos.

The avenging of Nino

After Nino鈥檚 killers delivered his body in a wheelbarrow like they were alabarus delivering goods in Balogun market, Isale Eko was drenched in blood and chaos. Deservedly so because why would anybody kill Nino 鈥淢oney is for spending鈥� and not think there鈥檇 be consequences?

Verdict: Survivable 

But the only way you鈥檙e surviving this is if you鈥檙e there to avenge Nino, or you have odeshi like London. If not, it’s sorry for you.

Obalola and Gift鈥檚 collection job

They walked into that garage in stealth mode and cleared out the place in minutes. We know it wasn’t the life Nino wanted for them, but still, he would鈥檝e been proud.

Verdict: Survivable

You could escape the garage through the back door, or point Wemimo out to Gift and Obalola.

The unfair non-fight fight

Look, we’re still sour over this. All Ify wanted to do was sing, blow and leave the trenches with his family, but Kazeem鈥檚 bad character goons ambushed him on a lonely street. We鈥檇 ask God to judge him, but Gift took care of that.

Verdict: Sorry for you

It was a lily-livered ambush, but the survival rate is a very strong sorry for you.

Isale Eko鈥檚 Mama Ify-inspired unrest

After Mama Ify called for vengeance and a general lack of peace (she was very specific), the streets flowed with blood once more. It wasn’t the same as when they were trying to avenge Nino, but still, everyone showed up pissed AF. Once Gift blew someone’s brain off in the first 20 seconds of the fight, we knew this was it.

Verdict: Sorry for you, on all sides. 

A fight that almost cost Obalola and Gift their lives? Everyone was ready, so if you were caught up in it, you’d have to be dodging blows and broken bottles till you got home.

Kash and Obalola鈥檚 1-on-1

After fighting through the streets, a very tired-looking Obalola thought dropping his weapon and engaging in hand-to-hand combat with Kash would end well for him. It didn’t.

Verdict: Survivable, as long as you don鈥檛 cut Kasope鈥檚 neck ice.

The great massacre

RIP to the odeshi carrying London, and sorry they used your funeral to squash beef. But there was no better moment than that first pow and Kazeem鈥檚 realisation that this could be the end.

Verdict: Highly Survivable

If you have strong survival skills, and amebo is not your calling, you could easily crawl away and save yourself.

Obalola and Kazeem鈥檚 1-on-1

RIP Kazeem, the evil you’ve done is enough.

This fight didn’t even have to be a fight. All Obalola had to do was shoot Kazeem in his wicked head and call it a day. But he wanted to form Bash Ali with hand-to-hand combat, a recurring character trait he needs to abolish because he keeps getting his ass handed to him. 

Verdict: Survivable

But only if you’re on Obalola鈥檚 team, or you lie down flat, hold your breath and pray they pass you by.

In an ensemble cast that combined some of the best from new and old Nollywood, Chioma鈥檚 performance was one of the film鈥檚 highlights, and the rest of the internet agrees.

While Gangs of Lagos may have started a conversation about how great Chioma is, I鈥檓 here to remind everyone that she鈥檚 always been an icon. 

Chioma was in the first and second highest-grossing Nollywood films of all time 

Chioma is one of the highest-grossing Nollywood actresses, with over five films on the . While being on the list is a feat in itself, she鈥檚 taken it a step further by being in both the first and second highest-grossing films of all time: Battle on Buka Street and Omo Ghetto. 

There are levels to this Nollywood thing, and Chioma is at the top after over 20 years in the game. 

Who do we have to beg to join Chioma鈥檚 iconic friendship group? 

Imagine being in the same squad as Rita Dominic, Omoni Oboli, Kate Henshaw, Uche Jumbo, Ini Edo and Ufuoma McDermott? These Nollywood baddies are always making fun of each other, going out for dinners and living their best lives together. I鈥檓 sorry, but has nothing on Chioma鈥檚 elite Nollywood posse. 

No one plays the naive good girl like Chioma 

Chioma Akpotha鈥檚 Sister Rose character from The Handkerchief is why I鈥檇 rather sweat like a goat than let anyone use their handkerchief to clean my face. What if they use juju on me? 

Her characters in The Apple and Sins of the Flesh are also cautionary tales that fornication is bad and we should all superglue our legs until marriage. No one carried the 鈥済ood girl who ends up in a bad situation鈥� trope like Chioma did back in the day. 

But she still has range for days 

While Chioma might be known for her good girl roles, the actress has incredible range and can be a badass anytime she wants to. She was Bianca the diva actress in Traumatized; area queen, Chummy Choko, in Omo Ghetto; and a villain in the remake of Nneka the Pretty Serpent. 

She鈥檚 also not afraid to tell the real-life Nigerian government to soro soke 

2020 was an insane year for Nigerians, and just like most of us, Chioma was on the streets, demanding justice and more from the Nigerian government during the #EndSARS protests. At a time when it would鈥檝e been easy to maintain silence and ignore all the chaos, the actress was an active part of the movement. Love to see it.

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Looking for an actress who serves looks? Holla at Chioma 

Chelsea, come on now. Every look is a hit, back-to-back. 

We stan an actress who doesn鈥檛 take herself too seriously 

I dare you to keep a straight face while scrolling through Chioma鈥檚 TikTok page. From collaborations with skit makers to random rants and commentaries, Chioma isn鈥檛 afraid to go there when it comes to making her fans laugh. We need a good writer to cook up an epic comedic role for her to sink her teeth into. Nollywood, make this happen, please. 

Chioma and patriotism are like five and six 

Remember when we called out some of our fave musicians for failing to show up during the elections? Chioma wasn鈥檛 on that list, and for good reason. The actress was a major part of the 2023 elections, reporting live from her polling unit, encouraging people to vote, and even going as far as at her polling unit. 

Chioma was part of this iconic Nollywood choreography from back in the day 

P-Square is shaking. Kaffy is vibrating. This iconic scene featuring her with Kate Henshaw, Dakore Akande, Ini Edo, Jim Iyke, Mike Ezuruonye, Monalisa Chinda and Uche Jombo, dancing in all white at the end of Games Men Play lives rent-free in my head. We need a reunion, ASAP. 

Unsurprisingly, she wears many hats

Chioma is also a producer and singer. It鈥檚 giving talented multi-hyphenate, and I鈥檓 here for it.

Once again, Gangs of Lagos 

I hope Chioma鈥檚 mouth is doing okay after eating up all her scenes in Gangs of Lagos? Because I鈥檝e checked, and nary a crumb is in sight. 

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Gangs of Lagos, Amazon Prime’s first Nollywood feature, follows three friends played by Tobi Bakre, Adesua Etomi-Wellington and Chike, as they navigate life, and well, gangs in Lagos’ notorious Isale Eko. With political elements playing a strong factor in the film, it seems like kismet when I chat with Chike mere days after saw thousands of people disenfranchised and hurt. 

“You can’t preach democracy and force at the same time,” Chike explained when the topic of the elections came up. “I kept hoping that maybe this time we’d get it right, but there are still a lot of people who don’t want the betterment of the country.” 

But elections can鈥檛 dampen the feeling of being a leading man as Chike gets into the process behind his big screen transition, the pressure to match the genius of Boo of the Booless and why he named his latest album, The Brother’s Keeper. 

Tell me everything you can about Gangs of Lagos and what you thought when Jade hit you up to join the project

If Jade calls you for a project, you jump on it because you know it’ll be good. I’d already worked with her on a project I can’t talk about before she asked me to do Gangs of Lagos. I guess I delivered on that one, so she decided to give me something more challenging. I remember being impressed by the script and having questions about how we’d pull off such a large scale production, but then I remembered it’s Jade, and she always puts out the best projects. 

I play Ify, a carefree guy who鈥檚 kind of naive鈥’m trying to tell you what I can without giving away too much. He’s surrounded by love from his family and friends in Isale Eko, but bad things happen to him as a result of his naivety. He’s just a guy trying to navigate life on the streets. 

What was the most challenging part of shooting the film? 

I won’t spoil it for anyone, but a very emotional scene in the movie really got to me. I didn’t have any lines or anything, so I just had to be present and listen to all the other actors perform. They were saying these really heavy things and giving striking performances that I didn’t know when I started getting emotional. 

You’ll know this scene as soon as it comes up in the movie, but omo, it was the toughest scene for me to shoot throughout our production. 

Making music is one thing, but I’m curious about what you learn about yourself when you attempt to become someone else as an actor

So one of the major personality traits I realised I shared with my character was that we’re both carefree. Outside of that, acting in Gangs of Lagos allowed me to do things I wouldn’t do as Chike and understand how life would be different if they were my choices. 

I got to see different parts of myself as a person. Could my life have gone differently, or could I have ended up as the guy I’m playing if my choices were different? But the most exciting thing about acting is I can do the wildest things and not get judged for it because it’s not real life. It’s not every job that gives you the freedom to be someone completely different every time. 

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Talking about music, what was going through your mind when you made your 2022 album, The Brother’s Keeper, especially after the success of 2020’s Boo of the Booless

I was a completely different artiste when I made Boo of the Booless. I know a couple of people knew me before the album, but it’s not like I had an existing fanbase or anything like that. But then the album came out, and things changed. Making a new album, I knew millions of people would be listening, and it could’ve either made me bold or scared. But all I knew was I couldn’t stop. I needed to make music. 

I didn’t consciously try for The Brother’s Keeper to be different. It was just a more confident album because I became a more confident artiste making it. People knew my music now. It wasn’t just friends and family telling me, “You’re a good singer. One day, you go make am.” 

Nigerians love music that’ll make us dance even when it’s sad 鈥� look at Burna Boy’s Last Last and Omah Lay’s Soso. But you tend to make stripped-down emotional songs about hurt, love and fame. Why do you gravitate towards songs like that? 

I read somewhere that it’s important to write what’s true to you, and that’s what I try to do as an artiste. I make sure I write down experiences and situations peculiar to me. I call my music 鈥渁fro-stories鈥� because my songs are my stories. For example, Please is about the fear that not all good things last. I could have a good run right now as a performer, but who knows how long it鈥檒l last? So Please is just me praying, 鈥淢ake my own no spoil鈥�. 

If my song is not about how I’m feeling now, it’s about what I felt before or how I’d react to a situation I’ve heard of. I don’t doubt that the music I’m making will find an audience. I’d have quit by now if I had doubts. My ultimate goal is to make music that’s realistic to me. 

Help me understand why this album is called The Brother’s Keeper. Who is this brother? What is he keeping? And where can I find it? Three questions, but you get my gist. 

People think it’s the album’s theme, but it’s not. The title was more of a representation of who I’d become as a person, not necessarily about the songs on the album. I’m my brother’s keeper, so the album is a: “The Brother’s Keeper presents you with these songs”, not “These songs are about being your brother’s keeper”. 

The remix of Spell with Oxlade is out right now. What inspires your collaborations? 

Collaborations are always about the music for me. What can I do to make this song better? If I can hear someone on a song in my head, I’ll reach out and try to get them to jump on it. Going with an artiste who elevates my song is the first and last step in deciding on a collaboration for me. 

Interestingly, I didn’t go after Oxlade for the remix of Spell. Oxlade is my guy, and we share the same producer. He heard the song at our producer’s place and decided to do something on it. He called me after and told me about it. My team and I loved his input. This was before the album even dropped. But we held on to the remix because I wanted to release it later. I have a thing for extending the lifespan of my work. LOL. 

What’s next for our brother’s keeper? 

I’m still determining, but we might make a video for Enough and put that out soon. I’ll put out new music if we don’t do that. 

Another album? 

Abeg o. I said I鈥檒l put out new music. I didn’t say “album”. New music could be a single. Last last, everyone will get new music. 

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The movie is dropping on the 7th of April, and you don’t want to be caught off-guard when it does. So, sign up for Amazon Prime Video in advance so you don’t miss it when it drops.

Cancel your Friday night plans

If you had plans with friends for Friday turn-up, cancel them. Instead, send them all an invite to come over to your place to watch the movie. If they don’t want to come, show them this teaser and they’ll drop everything else they have planned.

Make sure you have light

The last thing you want is for the power to go out in the middle of an epic fight in the movie. It’ll kill everyone’s vibe. So, make sure you have backup plans laid out in case of surprises. Look for fuel if you need to. Anything to make sure your watch party slaps.

Get some popcorn

It’s a whole movie experience, and it’ll be incomplete if you and your friends don’t have popcorn to go with it. So, make sure you have that ready ahead of time.

Or cook some food

Popcorn probably won’t do for a movie this hot. So, cook actual food for the people you’re having a watch party with.

Follow the conversation on the internet

People are going to be talking about it on the internet. In fact, they’re already doing so on Twitter with the hashtag #GangsOfLagosOnPrime. Make sure to join the conversation and drop your own two cents because, why not?

Don’t share spoilers

There’ll be some annoying people who want to share spoilers by all means. Don’t be like them. Share the teaser instead so that other people can go watch the movie and enjoy it too.

Tune in and enjoy

Once you have everything set for your watch party, set a reminder to make sure you don’t miss it the second it comes out. Then, at the auspicious time of 7pm on the 7th of April, tune in and enjoy the movie with your friends. Tell us, is there a better way to spend the holiday?

But what exactly do you need to know about the film Jade has been working on for two years? 

Let鈥檚 fill you in.

What’s the film about? 

Gangs of Lagos follows three friends 鈥� Obalola (Tobi Bakre), Gift (Adesua Etomi) and Panama (Chike) 鈥� as they navigate life and violence in Lagos’ notorious area of Isale Eko. The entire plot is still being kept under wraps, but I know there’ll be a lot of fighting, insane action stunts and a cast that also includes Chioma Akpotha, Bimbo Ademoye, Zlatan Ibile, Iyabo Ojo and Tayo Faniran. 

This isn’t the first time Jade has worked with most of the cast

Gangs of Lagos is basically a reunion project. The film marks the third project Jade has worked on with both Adesua Etomi (Gidi Up, Sugar Rush) and Tobi Bakre (Sugar Rush, Brotherhood). It’s also Bimbo Ademoye’s second time working with Jade after breaking out with Sugar Rush in 2019. 

Gangs of Lagos was shot way before Brotherhood 

Brotherhood was the highest grossing film of 2022 and a game changer for Nollywood, but what if I told you Jade had shot and wrapped up Gangs of Lagos even before they announced the cast of Brotherhood? Gangs of Lagos actually and . Meanwhile,. I don’t know why it took this long, but I’m a patient dog, and Gangs of Lagos looks like a fat bone. Just saying. 

Zlatan and Chike鈥檚 first film, and Pasuma鈥檚 first non-Yoruba film 

Musicians taking a stab at acting is nothing new. With Gangs of Lagos, we’ll get to add Zlatan and Chike’s names to a long list that already includes Banky W, Tiwa Savage, Falz, Reminisce and Seyi Shay.

Fuji musician, Pasuma Wonder, will also be playing a character called London. This’ll be his first non-Yoruba Nollywood film 鈥� but there’s a high chance Yoruba will pop up since the story is set in Isale Eko.

The film also features The Ikorodu Bois

The Ikorodu Bois have entertained us over the past six years with their hilarious and innovative remakes of trending trailers and movies, from to Netflix’s . Reshares and retweets are nice, but it鈥檚 incredible to finally see Maleek (one of the group members) work on an actual set. 

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There’s an epic street fight scene in Isale Eko featuring Pasuma 

Almost every picture from Gangs of Lagos has someone looking all bloodied and stressed from fighting. 

But if there’s one action sequence I’m dying to watch, it’s the one that features Pasuma and a bunch of guys fighting on the streets of Isale Eko. If for nothing, I want to watch the part where this guy lifts Pasuma like a bag of water. 

Is Zlatan in his villain era? 

We all know Zlatan can zanku and drop bangers, but can he beat Tobi Bakre? 

That’s what we’ll find out when Gangs of Lagos drops, with the singer’s character set to throw hands with Tobi Bakre. Is he the main villain of the story? We don’t know yet, but Mr Ibile is sha an opp. 

Gangs of Lagos and The Woman King have something in common

Viola Davis’ The Woman King was one of the best films of 2022 (even though an award group of primarily white voters failed to give it the flowers it deserved). But what does it have in common with the upcoming Gangs of Lagos? The same stunt coordinator (Director Tough) who in The Woman King also taught Tobi Bakare, Adesua Etomi and the rest of . 

The film is co-produced by #91大神MyBro alumni 

Am I really Nigerian if I don’t look for the smallest connection I have to this film and famz with it? Gangs of Lagos is co-produced by Depths and Optics Production, run by Adesegun Adetoro and Demi Banwo, the friends who made us cry and believe in true bromance in this episode of #91大神MyBro. 

Gangs of Lagos is Jade Osiberu’s third film as a director 

Yes, I know what you’re thinking: “But Jade is like one of the biggest names in Nollywood. This can’t be her third film.” Well, it is. While Jade has worked as a producer and sometimes writer on Ndani TV’s Gidi Up and Rumour Has It, Sugar Rush, Ayinla and Brotherhood, she’s only directed two films before Gangs of Lagos: the rom-com classic, Isoken, and 2022’s Trade. 

Jade is proof that when you’re big, you’re big. You don’t have to direct one film every year to remain relevant. 

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