Just in case you don鈥檛 know, is prejudice or discrimination based on a person鈥檚 gender. A common example is an idea that women are inferior to men and so should only do certain things like cooking, taking care of the family, etc. While many may not agree with this, there are sexist ideas they unknowingly perpetuate, sometimes as jokes. Here鈥檚 a list of nine jokes and statements that still count as sexism and why:
1. The idea that women are more emotional than men
This is one of the most common ideas about women. Some people even go further to add that men are more logical than women. First of all, logic is not the absence of emotions. Also, there are to prove that men and women have the same emotions. This idea exists because of how society has socialized us to treat women. Such that when women express anger, it鈥檚 used against them and when men do it, it鈥檚 a show of his manliness. Fix it, Jesus.
2. 鈥楤eauty and brains鈥
It鈥檚 you that is beauty and brains. Pointing out that a woman is beautiful and smart is saying that she cannot be both. That idea is why silly blonde tropes exist and beautiful women are often not taken seriously. Shaking ass on a yacht while earning good money and having a serious job isn鈥檛 an abstract concept. Get with the program.
3. 鈥榊ou’re not like other women鈥
Men usually say this when they have done something offensive to a woman but she is calm about it. They say you are not like other women so you can feel special and endure rubbish. My dear sister, don鈥檛 fall for it. People often say this to make you feel superior to other women, again, don鈥檛 fall for it. We are all the same dear, no woman wants to take your rubbish.
4. Calling women wife material as a compliment
If the first compliment that comes to your head when a woman does something spectacular is 鈥10 yards鈥, you are sexist because you perpetuate the idea that the reward for a worthy woman is marriage and outside of marriage, she doesn鈥檛 hold any value. I know you mean it as a joke but I鈥檓 telling you there鈥檚 more to it. It鈥檚 always silly 鈥10 yards鈥 jokes, never 鈥榯ake 10million dollars for your spectacular work鈥.
5. You are strong for a woman
This statement should be 鈥榊ou are strong.鈥 Who gets to determine who is strong for a man or who is strong for a woman? Definitely not you, dear. Sit down. Please if we want to be strong we鈥檒l go to the gym or represent Nigeria as heavyweight champion. Long suffering isn鈥檛 a sign of strength.
6. No wonder she dey drive like that
This one is funny because anybody can use it to mean anything. I鈥檝e seen someone pass a woman driving slowly and say, 鈥淣o wonder鈥 but I have also seen someone accuse a reckless driver of driving like a woman. So which is it, dears? This one is closely followed by men who assume every woman who owns a car, got the car because a man bought it for her. Men will scratch your car and have the audacity to assume that a hypothetical husband will fix it for you.
7. Why you dey do like babe
The next time I hear someone say this one, I will ask them to give me a 10 page thesis on what it means to do something like babe because only then will it make sense to me.
8. You should smile more
No. Are you smiling more? No? Then leave me alone, we don鈥檛 owe you niceness.
9. Why does she look like a man?
This is the most limiting of them all 鈥 not just even for women but also for men. There is no one way to be a woman and there is no one way to be a man. We are not in the dark age, dear. Even then, sef.
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