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  • Sunken Ships: She Cut Off All Her Hair Because of Me

    Bimpe* (23), the subject of this week鈥檚 Sunken Ships, stopped talking to Yinka* (22) because Yinka was so obsessed with her that she tried to steal her life.

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    Sunken Ships is a 91大神 series that explores the how and why of the end of all relationships 鈥 familial, romantic or just good old friendships.

    How did you meet Yinka? 

    Bimpe: She shot a friendship shot at me. In February 2022, she DMed me on Instagram that she鈥檇 been following me for a while and thought I was really cool. She ended by saying we stayed around the same place and was wondering if we could be friends. I should鈥檝e known from the shot that she was a weirdo, but I wanted more female friends so I was excited. 

    I鈥檓 a very friendly person, and I鈥檝e met a lot of interesting people on social media, so I wasn鈥檛 opposed to the idea. I鈥檇 travelled to Abuja, so we used the time I was away from Lagos to text each other for a bit. I wanted to know if we had anything in common before we hung out. 

    We seemed to hit it off immediately. We had so much in common it was almost unbelievable. We shared similar goals and views about the world. I thought I would finally have a friend I could do things like go to the gym and run errands with. 

    So you met up with her? 

    Bimpe: Yeah. Two weeks after we started texting. It was supposed to be a quick lunch, nothing longer than an hour, but we stayed there for hours. We exchanged stories about our lives, drank and laughed a lot. The other people in the restaurant were looking at us strangely, but I didn鈥檛 care. I thought I鈥檇 found the next best thing to happen to me. 

    We spent so much time together after. Since we lived in the same area, we鈥檇 attend events from one person鈥檚 house because it didn鈥檛 make sense to arrive separately. My parents knew her, and I knew hers too. In fact, we鈥檇 gotten so close so quickly that about two to three months after we met, we started attending each other鈥檚 family events. If she didn鈥檛 come for one, my parents would be upset. She was my best friend. 

    When did you start noticing the change?

    Bimpe: About four months into our friendship. I鈥檓 a very social person, and because Yinka was my best friend, I dragged her along with me to many places. When we鈥檇 go out, it suddenly felt like she was trying to outdo me. She鈥檇 always try to make me the butt of jokes even when it wasn鈥檛 called for. 

    Once, at a beach party, someone complimented my bikini, but she was quick to point out that my makeup really tied the look together and that she did my makeup for me. Apparently, I鈥檇 have been so ugly if I did it myself. There was no reason for the comment. She just wanted to make me feel small. Luckily for me, I鈥檓 a very confident person. And I didn’t even notice anything before this beach incident. I think some people are just weird.

    The next time we went to the beach, she was wearing the same bikini the person complimented. What kind of sick behaviour is that? 

    Ah

    Bimpe: That鈥檚 another thing she did a lot. Copy my style. If someone complimented my hair, she鈥檇 buy the same wig or do the same style. If someone complimented an outfit, she鈥檇 buy it and post pictures of herself in it. 

    One time, I went on a date to a restaurant, and the next day, she had a date in that same restaurant. She even wore a similar outfit to the one I wore for my date.  

    Coincidence? 

    Bimpe: At first, I thought so, but one day in July, she鈥檇 just gotten her hair done 鈥 knotless brown box braids, and she looked really cute in them. The next week, I did layered braids in blonde because I hadn鈥檛 made my hair in weeks. Just wigs and vibes. Tell me why two days later, she posted an Instagram story from my hairdresser鈥檚 salon. This babe went and did layered braids too but in brown. Two days after I did mine? It was giving 鈥渙bsessed鈥. 

    Chelsea c鈥檓on nau 

    Bimpe: I decided to set a trap for her in August when I travelled again. I wanted to really know if she was copying me.

    I removed everyone from my close friends list except her then I posted a picture of hair on the floor on my story and typed 鈥渂ig chop鈥 over it. I actually got the picture from when one of my other friends cut her hair. 

    A couple of days later, Yinka had cut her hair, claiming she was starting a new journey. When I got back to Lagos from Abuja the next week, she came to pick me up from the airport with my parents and was visibly shocked when she saw my afro. I just did as if nothing happened. 

    When we got back to my place, she asked about my hair. That鈥檚 when I let her have it. I told her to get out of my house and reported her to my parents so they don鈥檛 make the mistake of reaching out to her. 

    Detective doings 

    Bimpe: It was actually scary. When I told my other friends about it, they said that whenever I travelled, she tried to talk to them or initiate hangout sessions. They agreed because she was my close friend. It was as if she wanted my life. Never again, abeg. 

    Did she ever reach out after that? 

    Bimpe: She did. She claimed she was mentally ill, but I just sent her the number of a psychiatrist and blocked her. You can鈥檛 be weaponising mental illness in 2023, especially considering she never cared how what she did could鈥檝e affected my own mental health. RELATED: Sunken Ships: The Elections May End, but My Uncle Will Remain Blocked

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