91大神! / Come for the fun, stay for the culture! Tue, 11 Aug 2026 17:19:49 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.8.2 /wp-content/uploads/zikoko/2020/04/cropped-91大神_91大神_Purple-Logo-1-150x150.jpg 91大神! / 32 32 I Can Explain: I鈥檇 Rather Risk My Life Than Go Back to My Father聽 /ships/risk-life-to-escape-father/ Tue, 11 Aug 2026 17:19:47 +0000 /?p=382229 For Dami* (22), what started as a holiday with her estranged father turned into seven years of living under his roof. She thought she had no choice but to endure his behaviour until years of abuse pushed her to plan her escape. That journey almost cost her her life 

This is Dami鈥檚 explanation, as shared with Mofiyin

My father has always been abusive. Growing up with him meant never knowing what could set him off. A small mistake could earn me a beating, and an hour later, he’d expect everyone to act as though nothing had happened. He never apologised or admitted when he was wrong.

My grandmother once told me that when I was two, he beat me so badly that she thought I was dead. She said he broke down when he realised what he鈥檇 done, insisting he hadn’t meant to hurt me. I don’t remember that incident, but I remember what happened when I was nine. 

He got angry with me and chased me around the house, throwing things at me. I hid behind a door, but he kept slamming it against my head until my forehead was badly swollen.

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I only began to understand that his behaviour was abnormal when I was 11. That was also when my parents鈥 marriage fell apart. In 2015,  my dad suddenly asked my mum for a divorce. She refused, so he took her to court. The court eventually granted the divorce, but they still had to settle what would happen to the house they鈥檇 built together. My mum had invested heavily in it and had nowhere else to go, so she begged him to let us stay.

He refused. I’ll never forget the day he sent his brother to throw us out while it rained. My mum held my siblings and me close, looking so helpless that the whole thing felt like a scene from a Nollywood film. I watched her, and for the first time, realised that I hated my father.

Not long after, we found out on Facebook that another woman had had a son with him. Even after the divorce, my mum still tried to involve my father in our lives.  When I got my first acting audition in 2017, she asked him to drive me there. But we never made it to the audition. Instead, we spent that time at his new wife鈥檚 naming ceremony. Afterwards, he drove me home without further explanation.

I cried when I got home. I’d been so excited about that audition, and it hurt to realise he didn鈥檛 acknowledge my dream. I became scared to try again and never did. Eventually, my father and his new family moved to another state in 2018. 

My sisters and I stayed with our mum, as the court had decided. But my father kept pressuring her to let us stay with him. In 2020, she eventually agreed to let us spend one holiday with him. 

I expected us to return home when the holiday ended. Instead, the days kept passing. Then the COVID lockdown started, and my father seized our phones, so we couldn’t reach our mum. I knew she was fighting to get us back, but when he enrolled us in new schools, it became clear that we weren’t leaving anytime soon.

What should have been one holiday stretched into seven torturous years.

I went through all sorts of verbal abuse. He鈥檇 flare up over minor incidents and even suggest I was a bastard child. His wife didn鈥檛 make my life easier; she equally played her own part. Through it all, my grades suffered, and I became a shadow of myself. 

In 2024, my mum finally enforced the court order and got my sisters back. But my father insisted that I stay because of my schooling. With my sisters gone, I was left alone with him and things got worse. My mental health deteriorated.

Then, last year, my father’s relationship with his second wife became rocky. Whenever they fought, he took his anger out on me. He blamed me for their problems and said she only behaved that way because I was rude to her. 

When she eventually left him last month, I heard that he was planning to take a third wife. I was already struggling with my mental health and that news pushed me further. One evening, I realised I couldn’t spend another day living with the fear of what might happen next. So I ran away.

I left the house that day with nothing but my charger. I told my dad I was going to buy something at the junction, but instead, I went straight to the park. By 7 p.m., I was on a bus heading to the state where my mum and sisters lived. I switched off my phone so my dad couldn’t reach me.

About two hours into the journey, I dozed off. I woke to people shouting and the bus spinning. For a moment, I thought it was karma for running away, and that I was going to die. The back tyre burst after we hit a pothole, and the bus ended up in a ditch, but some trees stopped it from overturning.

We were stranded for hours before a convoy of buses stopped to help pull us out. It was terrifying, especially because nobody knew where I was. Still, I refused to turn back.

By the time I arrived at my mum’s house, it was past 1 a.m. She was angry that I’d risked travelling alone at night, especially in an unsafe environment, but I could tell she was mostly relieved that I was alive. She gave me food, and I went to bed for the first time in years without a worry in the world.

It’s been less than two weeks since I left. I’ve blocked my dad, but he’s figured out where I am and keeps trying to reach me through my mum. He blames her for turning me against him, but this was entirely my decision. Maybe when I’ve had time to heal, I’ll be willing to hear him out, but I don’t want a relationship with him. 

Since leaving, I’ve realised how much damage that environment did to me. Living in a loving and caring space has shown me that I didn’t have to tolerate him just because he was my father.

With him, I lost the will to live. Getting away became a choice between protecting his feelings and protecting myself. If I had to make the same choice again, I’d risk my life all over again.

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]]> ‘A Happy Ending’ Is A Real Woman’s Story: Dika Ofoma on Keeping Tatiana Alive /her/dika-ofoma-on-writing-a-happy-ending/ Tue, 11 Aug 2026 17:07:55 +0000 /?p=382233 Dika Ofoma has been labelled a festival filmmaker because at the start of his career, he uploaded his films to YouTube, with no plans beyond that. It was other filmmakers who spotted his films on the streaming platform and encouraged him to submit to festivals. C. J. Obasi among them. “I took it seriously,” Dika said, “and that was how the festival filmmaker path was born.”

Dika has made peace with where that path has taken him. “For me, what is important is telling stories and for people to listen to the stories I’m telling. Whatever opportunities provide an audience for these films, whether it’s on YouTube, festivals or whether it’s to take it to the box office, I’m very much open,” he says.

Dika鈥檚 brilliance, however, continues to shine, as proven once more in the final drop of 91大神鈥檚 Life 2: 鈥楢 Happy Ending鈥. In the film, Dika brings Tatiana鈥檚 story to life, drawing on a character and experience that feel deeply grounded in the realities of a real woman. It is another example of the filmmaker鈥檚 instinct for finding the emotional truth in ordinary, complicated lives.

In this conversation, Dika talks about his journey from making films for YouTube to becoming a familiar name in Nigeria鈥檚 film industry, the creative choices behind A Happy Ending, and what it means to keep telling stories without becoming too attached to where they might take him.

Initially, Dika had a casting problem with 鈥楢 Happy Ending鈥. He needed someone who understood the film鈥檚 intention to play the lead actress.. Tatiana is a young woman who moves to Lagos to work as a masseuse. Her job exposes her to a wealthy politician who enjoys the add-on of happy endings to his massages. The professional relationship between the pair goes beyond the spa and becomes more than Tatiana intended. He had an actor in mind, but after reading the script, she turned it down.

Her reason stuck with him because two other actors shared the same sentiments. They wouldn’t play Tatiana because she wasn’t written as a victim. She didn鈥檛 have a sick mother back home, no pressing issues that required the support of a politician, and no gun to her head. Tatiana was a young woman who weighed her options and chose the one that kept her dreams alive.

Dika found this experience telling. 鈥淚t opened my eyes to the sort of society that we live in,” he says. He admits that he’s surrounded himself with “a lot of progressives” for so long that he had “forgotten how conservative our society is.” The truth is that people need it 鈥渢o be such a miserable story for them to empathise and understand why a person would get into sex work鈥.

His refusal to write Tatiana as a broken woman came from the real woman who inspired her story. Speaking about the woman, he says, “What was clear was that she didn’t think of herself as a victim.” “She knew that she was economically disadvantaged, and she wanted a better life for herself, her siblings, and for their parents. Knowing all this, it became important for me that I captured that in the script.”

He is equally clear about why that mattered to him as a storyteller. “It’s so important to give the characters agency to make choices, even under pressure. This person is a human adult, and they can make decisions.”

Dika eventually found his Tatiana in Ifeoma Obinwa, whose Igbo instantly convinced him. “I’m an Igbo speaker, and I can tell when the Igbo is good,” he says. Her audition sealed it. “When I looked at her, I was like, yeah, this is really Tatiana.”

The person who nudges Tatiana into sex work, Madam Ngozi, could easily have been the film’s villain, but Dika refused to do that. “I didn’t want to write her as a villain,” he says. “I never go in thinking, who’s the bad guy here? I don’t think great stories come from writing people as black or white. Where there’s a bad guy, and there’s a good one.”

Instead, he gives her a backstory that mirrors Tatiana’s. “I imagine that the circumstances might have been a lot harder for her than it was for Tatiana,” he says. “And so, she sees Tatiana as her younger self.”

His favourite scene is the one where Madam Ngozi hands Tatiana a contraceptive and tells her to look after herself. “That was the scene where we could really see her as human, outside of running her spa and being a madam.”

He also speaks on how little self-awareness Madam Ngozi has about her role in Tatiana’s situation. “It is not often that people recognise that what they’re doing is not in order.鈥 He even suggests, almost gently, that Madam Ngozi “could have thought of that as an act of kindness.”

The bond between Tatiana and her best friend Ginika carries much of the film’s warmth. But Dika explains that he wasn’t trying to make a grand statement about women specifically.

“I didn’t go into the story trying to say something about female friendships. I was simply trying to talk about friendship,” he says. “I have male friends, I have female friends, and it’s the same in how we care for each other. We look out for one another.”

Still, he can see how naturally it reads as something closer to sisterhood. Especially watching how easily his two lead actresses built real chemistry. “It feels as though it’s a story about Tatiana, but it’s also very much Ginika’s story, and it’s about their friendship as well,” he says.

Dika didn’t set out to make a film with a message stapled on it. He intended to write characters the way people actually are. Messy and with motives, and let the audience do the work of deciding what they think.

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]]> Yield by Credit Direct Joins The Naira Life Conference 2026 as Headline Sponsor /announcements/yield-by-credit-naira-life-conference-headline-sponsor/ Tue, 11 Aug 2026 10:46:57 +0000 /?p=382213 91大神 is announcing Yield by Credit Direct as the Headline Sponsor of the second edition of the , taking place at the Jewel Aeida on August 22, 2026.

The partnership brings together two platforms committed to helping Nigerians make more deliberate decisions about their financial mobility.

This year鈥檚 conference is themed “All About Wealth” and will explore the full journey of building wealth: making money, keeping it, growing it, protecting it, and passing it on.

The theme reflects a broader reality. While many Nigerians are working, earning, investing, building businesses and creating multiple income streams, income alone does not always translate into lasting financial security. The conference will therefore move beyond conversations about how to make money and examine the systems, knowledge, decisions and tools that help people turn income into sustainable wealth.

Yield by Credit Direct will play a central role in bringing this ambition to life.

Yield is a wealth management platform designed for financially conscious Nigerians who want to do more with their money. Through its flexible and fixed investment options, the platform helps users move beyond simply earning money towards deliberately investing and building assets.

Toheeb Lanlehin, Senior Editor at 91大神 and Programming Lead for The Naira Life Conference, said:

鈥淎ll About Wealth” leans on the premise that earning money is only one part of the wealth-building journey. People also need to understand how to maintain their momentum, grow assets, manage risk and make decisions that create long-term security.

鈥淥ur partnership with Yield by Credit Direct gives us an opportunity to nail that promise. We are creating a stage for important conversations about wealth and also building experiences that encourage attendees to reflect on their money, use practical tools and take meaningful action.鈥

As Headline Sponsor, Yield by Credit Direct will be integrated across the conference鈥檚 programming and attendee experience. The partnership will include practical activities designed to help guests engage with their financial goals throughout the day.

Attendees will receive a Yield Checklist Card upon arrival at the conference. By completing selected activities, they can earn up to 2,000 Yield Naira, which can be used to play games and win instant prizes and cash rewards.

The activities will include writing an investment letter to their future selves, contributing to the Yield Tree, visiting and sharing content from the Yield Photo Booth, and activating, funding or gifting a Yield Plan.

Speaking on the partnership, Nifemi Oluboyede, Chief Product Officer at Credit Direct, said:

“One of the biggest gaps in personal finance isn’t access to opportunities, it’s turning intention into action. Many people want to invest and build wealth but don’t always know where to start or how to stay consistent. That’s why this partnership matters to us. We want to make wealth-building feel practical, accessible, and achievable for more Nigerians, one deliberate decision at a time.”

The Naira Life Conference 2026 will bring together professionals, entrepreneurs, investors, creators, business leaders and financially ambitious Nigerians for a day of practical conversations and experiences focused on economic mobility and long-term financial progress.

Confirmed speakers include Dr Emeka Ucheaga, Head of Research, Strategy and Financial Inclusion, Credit Direct;  Jason Njoku, CEO, Iroko Partners; Mojisola Hunponu-Wusu, President, WoodHall Cap; Seye Bandele, CEO of PaidHR; Joshua Chibueze, Co-founder, Piggyvest; Fiyin Toyo, Marketing Director for Central, East and West Africa at Beiersdorf; Yanmo Omorogbe, Co-founder of Bamboo; Olamidun Ogundoyin, Founder of Sooyah Bistro, and more. Full list of speakers . 

Across sessions, workshops, and interactive experiences, the conference will explore career growth, entrepreneurship, investing, ownership, financial protection, business building, and wealth. Full program details will be announced in the lead-up to the event.

The Naira Life Conference 2026 will take place on Saturday, August 22, 2026, at The Jewel Aeida in Lagos.

]]> 5 Nigerian Women Open Up on Trying Sex Work /ships/nigerian-women-on-trying-sex-work/ Tue, 11 Aug 2026 10:00:05 +0000 /?p=382207 For some women, sex work started as a way to make money. For others, it seemed like an opportunity worth trying when other options felt limiting. But their experiences looked very different from what they expected.

These women tell us how they got into sex work, what happened when they did and what they think about the experience now.

鈥淚 decided that suffering was better than insults鈥 鈥 Yejide*, 30

After I graduated from university, I was desperate to move out of my father鈥檚 house and start a new life in Lagos. My biggest obstacle was rent. I鈥檇 begged my parents, friends and other family members, but I couldn鈥檛 raise the money.

In 2022, while complaining to a friend about my frustrations, an older man in his late 40s overheard me. He called me aside, and we got talking. He offered to make me his sugar baby and pay me 鈧160k every time we had sex, and I agreed. 

By my calculations, 10 meet-ups would cover my rent and leave me with extra cash. I also found him a little attractive, so I didn鈥檛 mind if sleeping with him brought me closer to my goal. We agreed on a date, time, and location and exchanged contact details.

On the day we were supposed to meet, I joined him at a bar before we went to the hotel. He had a few friends with him and spent almost half an hour making fun of me for being poor. I felt humiliated and stayed quiet for the rest of the time we spent at the bar.  

At the hotel, I gave him a blowjob but pretended to be too tired for sex. He sent me 鈧160K, with an extra 鈧5K for transport fare, and we went to bed. 

I blocked his number as soon as I got home the next morning. I felt dirty and humiliated. Whatever money I could have made from him wasn鈥檛 worth being treated that way. 

I couldn鈥檛 move to Lagos until 2024. It took much longer than I鈥檇 planned, but it was worth it. 

鈥淚 didn鈥檛 have the stomach for it鈥 鈥 Emmanuella*, 26

During my third year at university, I asked a friend who I knew was in the business聽 to 鈥渟how me the way.鈥 She was reluctant at first, but I begged until she agreed to a test run. She always had money, and I thought that if I could get through the beginning, I could live a soft life too.

What I didn鈥檛 expect was how jarring the transition would be. The first and only time I followed her to a club to meet one of her regulars, the man started rubbing his hands all over my thighs. His hands were sweaty, and his breath smelled of alcohol and cigarettes. I felt nauseous and scared, and eventually, backed out. 

My friend was upset because she had to find a replacement at the last minute and give her extra. It took a while for her to forgive me. I would never have tried it if I鈥檇 known I didn鈥檛 have the stomach for it.

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鈥淚 thought I’d change my life, but I didn鈥檛 make any money.鈥 鈥 Tolu*, 24, 

I got into virtual sex work in 2023 after seeing people on X talk about how much money they were making. At the time, I was between jobs and thought that as long as I hid my face, I could make easy money.

The reality was very different. Finding clients wasn’t easy, and I quickly realised that the women showing off the lifestyle I wanted weren’t showing the full picture. Most men wanted to negotiate prices and expected things that weren’t part of the agreement.

I also underestimated the emotional toll. Even though everything happened online,  constantly presenting a version of myself that clients wanted became draining.

After about four months, I stopped. I wasn’t making enough money to justify the stress. 

鈥淚 stopped because it never took off鈥 鈥 Patience*, 22

I thought selling sexy pictures online could give me a low-key side income to cover my bills and fund my education. Unfortunately, it didn鈥檛 work out, and I still had to drop out.

It鈥檚 not like I wasn鈥檛 making any money. The site I used required a paid registration before I could withdraw my earnings, and I couldn鈥檛 afford it. Without authentication, I couldn鈥檛 prove I was a real person, so I couldn鈥檛 earn.

I鈥檝e paused for now until I can verify my account. 

I鈥檓 currently staying with my parents, so I鈥檓 not suffering. But I hope to land a regular job soon, so that I can return to my studies.

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鈥淚 was intrigued by the lifestyle鈥 鈥 Judith*, 27

I had a decent job, was comfortable financially and had no urgent reason to look for extra money. I was just curious about sex work.

I鈥檇 been watching content about findom and dominatrixes, and the lifestyle caught my fancy. I wanted to know what it would feel like to live that way.

So I created a burner account and started posting fetish and dominatrix content without showing any face. The account quickly attracted attention. People flooded my DMs with requests for private calls and videos. They also offered to pay, but I ignored them.

After a few months, I realised I鈥檇 started craving the attention. I liked feeling desired by men who could never access me, and I realised I was relying on that validation more than I expected.  It also forced me to confront some of my insecurities about my body. 

Eventually, I stopped making content and deleted the account.

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]]> GridLocked: Can You Guess The TV Show? (11 August 2026) /games/gridlocked/gridlocked-11-8-2026/ Tue, 11 Aug 2026 08:03:38 +0000 /?p=382191 GridLocked is a daily pop culture guessing game built for Nigerians. Every weekday by 9am, you’ll get six clues, sixty seconds, and an answer only a Nigerian would know.

Today’s GridLocked is a TV show.

How many clues do you need to get it right? 馃憖

Share your result when done, but don鈥檛 spoil the answer for others. (Missed the last GridLocked? Play it here.)

11 August 2026

Come back every weekday by 9am for a new grid or , 91大神鈥檚 daily newsletter, to get new GridLocked puzzles, real Nigerian stories and other fun content in your inbox.

How to Play GridLocked

  • The Goal: Guess the answer for the day before time runs out. (The answer could be a Nigerian person, place, song, movie, or even slang.)
  • The Lock: You cannot type a guess until you have revealed at least one tile (clue).
  • The Reveal: Tap any tile to reveal a clue. Every clue describes the answer for the day. The fewer tiles you flip, the better.
  • The Clock: You have 60 seconds to guess right. The timer starts the moment you flip your first tile. (You get multiple guesses.)

The GridLocked Squares: What Do They Mean?

When the game ends, you see your guess count, total time spent, and the number of tiles flipped. The tiles are shown as white and purple squares.

  • 猬 (White) = A tile you flipped
  • (Purple) = A tile you left closed

The fewer white tiles you have, the better your result.

  • Best Result = 猬馃煪 | Guesses: 1 (Only needed one clue and one guess to get it right)

]]> Love Currency: 鈥淗e Spends More Money on His Child Than Me鈥 /money/love-currency-he-spends-more-money-on-his-child-than-me/ Tue, 11 Aug 2026 08:00:07 +0000 /?p=382195 The topic of how young Nigerians navigate romantic relationships with their earnings is a minefield of hot takes. In Love Currency, we get into what relationships across income brackets look like in different cities.

Interested in talking about how money moves in your relationship? If yes, .

How long have you been with your partner?

Alfred and I have been together for about a year and eight months.

How did you meet?

We met through a mutual friend in 2024. I鈥檇 seen Alfred a few times at social events, but we didn鈥檛 speak until our friend鈥檚 birthday party. We ended up sitting next to each other and had fun gisting. I was surprised to find that he was funny because he always looked serious.

We exchanged numbers that night. He called the next day and told me he liked me and wanted us to date. He was very intentional about showing me his feelings, which was another surprise because I鈥檇 never met a romantic Benin man before. They don鈥檛 have time for lovey-dovey things. 

But Alfred would text me every morning and still call me after work. I remember thinking, 鈥淭his guy is actually not bad.鈥 I mean, for someone you鈥檙e not dating to be that caring, he must be nice.

What made you eventually say yes?

His intentionality, plus the fact that he was a responsible man. He had a good job as an engineer and seemed like a sensible man with a plan. He was also quite generous. He took me to nice eateries almost every weekend and generally cared for me. What else did I need in a man? Of course, I agreed to date him.

Our relationship went smoothly for the first three months, until I found out he had a child.

Oh. How did you find out?

I was at his house one weekend, when I noticed a child鈥檚 school bag and some little boy鈥檚 clothes around the place. That was my third time at his house, but the first time I saw those items. The other two times, it had just been Alfred鈥檚 properties in the house. This was around the mid-term break or the normal school holiday period, so I assumed the clothes belonged to his nephew or something.

While I was still thinking about how to ask him, a little boy came into the room and called him Daddy. I was so confused.

What did Alfred say?

He was just like, 鈥淚 wanted to tell you, but I didn鈥檛 know how.鈥 

Then he started explaining how the lady he had planned to marry six years earlier died while giving birth to their son. Apparently, the child lived with his mother and only visited him during the holidays, which was why I didn鈥檛 know he was a dad. In summary, that was how I found out he had a six-year-old son. 

How did you react?

I was shocked and angry because I felt three months was a long time to go without telling me something like that. We fought, and I refused to pick up his calls for two days. I even fought with our mutual friend for hiding it too, but he claimed he assumed Alfred would.

Eventually, Alfred and I settled. The reason he gave for hiding it was that he didn鈥檛 think it was a big deal since the mother wasn鈥檛 in the picture, and it slipped his mind. Imagine that. How can you forget something like that? Later, he said he just wanted to make sure our relationship was strong before telling me. 

I forgave him sha. I already really liked him at that point, and thankfully, it wasn鈥檛 like he had a baby mama. 

Safe to say you didn鈥檛 have reservations about dating a single father?

Not really. I knew his child would always be important to him, which is normal. It would even be a red flag if he denied the child or abandoned him somewhere.

It only became a problem when I noticed how much of his money went towards his son.

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When did you start noticing that?

Around a year into the relationship. At first, I didn’t pay attention to how often he was sending money to his mum for his son because I thought it was the expected thing to do. Of course, he should spend money on his child.

But then I started noticing that whenever there was a financial conflict between something for his son and something for us, his son always came first.

Can you give me an example?

For our first anniversary, he promised we鈥檇 go on a staycation at a resort. I鈥檇 planned everything and even made my clothes for the trip. I was really looking forward to it. A week before the trip, he told me we had to cancel because his son needed a laptop for school.

First of all, I鈥檝e never heard that a primary school pupil needs a laptop for school. Secondly, I was bothered by how quickly he cancelled our plans. He didn鈥檛 even have a conversation with me about whether we could find another way to pay for it or postpone the purchase. He also didn鈥檛 entertain my questions about why he needed a laptop. It was simply, 鈥淢y son needs this, so the trip has to go.鈥 

And that wasn鈥檛 the only time he did that. His mum told him the boy wanted a PlayStation for his birthday, and Alfred bought it. I remember because around the same period, I had been complaining about my phone. It was old and constantly giving me problems.

I never expected Alfred to buy me a phone, but I remember thinking, 鈥淵ou can spend over 鈧500k on a PlayStation for a boy I鈥檓 not sure can even play well, but we keep postponing things we want to do together because they鈥檙e too expensive?鈥

Hmmm

I feel like he spends more money on his son and prioritises his needs over mine. To be clear, I鈥檓 not angry that he鈥檚 taking care of his son; it鈥檚 how he makes me feel like a second-class citizen. Most of the time, he does whatever the boy wants, and it somehow becomes my relationship鈥檚 financial problem.

There was another time when I wanted us to go somewhere nice for my birthday. He cancelled because school fees were coming up. Not long after, he bought the boy a pair of school shoes for 鈧50k. I was honestly hurt, but I couldn鈥檛 tell him because it鈥檇 be like I was dictating what he should or shouldn鈥檛 do for his son.

Do you both have conversations about money?

Not really in the way we should. We talk about money when there鈥檚 a specific expense, but we don鈥檛 have regular conversations about our finances or what we can build together.

I think that鈥檚 part of the problem. I know what his duties to his son are, but I don鈥檛 really know how he plans around them. We also don鈥檛 talk about our income. He spends without communicating with me or asking my opinion on matters. It鈥檚 only when I ask him for money that I鈥檒l hear things like, 鈥淚 don鈥檛 have. I just sent 鈧50k to Iye for my son,鈥 or 鈥淚鈥檓 gathering 鈧100k to pay for something for my son.鈥 

That鈥檚 even how I get to find out how much he spends on his son. I鈥檝e mentioned a few times that we should talk about money more, but nothing has changed. It doesn鈥檛 feel like we鈥檙e in a partnership, which is concerning because we鈥檝e passed the stage of boyfriend-girlfriend. We鈥檙e now thinking of settling down. I shouldn鈥檛 still be thinking twice about talking about money with someone I hope to marry.

What do relationship expenses, like dates and gifts, look like for you both right now?

Alfred pays for most of our dates. He鈥檚 also the one who usually suggests going somewhere, so I don鈥檛 have a problem with that. I also buy things for him, especially on birthdays and on random gifts.聽

Do you contribute financially to his son in any way?

No. And I don鈥檛 think I should at this stage. I鈥檓 not his mother, and we鈥檙e not married yet. I sometimes buy him snacks and toys, but that鈥檚 it. 

You鈥檝e mentioned marriage a few times. Are wedding plans in motion?

Alfred is very clear that he wants to marry me. We鈥檝e talked about it, but there鈥檚 no date yet. I think that鈥檚 why the money issue has started bothering me more. 

It was easy to overlook how much he spent on his son when we started dating, but if we get married, it will affect me, too. I feel like I鈥檓 constantly competing with his son for money, and I don鈥檛 like that. Again, I know his son should be a priority. But I also want us to have our own financial goals, like travelling, investing, or maybe starting a business. I don鈥檛 want every plan we make to be pushed to the side because there鈥檚 always another expense related to his son.

What鈥檚 the ideal financial future you鈥檇 like for you and Alfred?

I just want to feel like we鈥檙e building something together. We need to have a proper joint plan for our future. I鈥檓 not seeing that right now. 

Interested in talking about how money moves in your relationship? If yes, .

*Names have been changed for the sake of anonymity.

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]]> A Timeline of 2Baba and Natasha鈥檚 Rollercoaster Relationship /ships/2baba-and-natashas-relationship/ Mon, 10 Aug 2026 20:32:26 +0000 /?p=382185 Since 2025, 2Baba and Natasha Osawaru鈥檚 relationship has given Nigerians plenty to talk about. From their first public appearance as a couple to their public controversies, there鈥檚 been a lot to keep up with.

Here鈥檚 a timeline of how it all unfolded.

February 2025

Before fans fully processed his separation from Annie Idibia, 2face with his relationship with Natasha Osawaru. Videos of their engagement also made rounds online.

The situation got even messier when 2Baba’s mum publicly pleaded with Natasha to leave her son alone, alleging that she鈥檇 used juju on him and abducted him.

July 2025

2Baba and Natasha gagged their haters by taking their relationship to the next level, despite the rumours and backlash surrounding it.

They reportedly in a private traditional ceremony on July 25, surrounded by family and close friends.

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November 2025 

of a pregnancy began spreading after Natasha was spotted at public events with what appeared to be a baby bump.

The speculation peaked in November when a Facebook page attributed to that she鈥檇 welcomed 2Baba’s eighth child. 

December 2025

During an IG Live session hosted by Daddy Freeze, 2Baba and Natasha got into a . His ex-managers accused Natasha of controlling him.

Shortly after, clips surfaced online showing a fight between the couple in London. The altercation reportedly led to 2Baba’s arrest. He鈥檇 previously denied the arrest rumours.

February 2026

By Valentine’s Day, 2Baba and Natasha were loved-up again.

Natasha shared of the romantic setup he organised for her, adding that she would choose him “again and again.” 

August 2026

The couple unfollowed each other. Still, with about 20 bouncers. She鈥檇 reportedly been trying to reach him.

Fresh reports also claim 2Baba has ended the relationship. And in the biggest plot twist yet, 2Baba and Annie have on social media.

We’re just watching to see where this story ends.

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]]> My Fianc茅 Wouldn鈥檛 Stop Impregnating Other Women. So I Beat Him Up /ships/fiance-impregnating-other-women/ Mon, 10 Aug 2026 17:38:02 +0000 /?p=382181 Sophie* (32) thought she’d finally found the family she’d always wanted when she got pregnant. But as the years went by, she kept uncovering painful secrets that would end her seven-year relationship and leave her a single mum of two. In this story, she opens up about the betrayals that changed how she sees love. 

What鈥檚 your current relationship status, and how do you feel about it?

I鈥檓 single for the first time in years and finally free from my baby daddy. Right now, I鈥檓 not interested in dating. Maybe that will change in the future, but my last relationship drained me so badly that dating isn鈥檛 in my cards for now.

How did you arrive at this point? Take me back to the beginning

I grew up very sheltered. I was raised in a very religious environment, so I barely dated.

But that changed when I got into university, where I  met my first boyfriend, David*. We met on a 2go group chat in 2014. We attended the same College of Education, so we became friends. Eventually, he told me he liked me, and we started dating.

What was the relationship like?

It wasn鈥檛 bad. We broke up and got back together several times over two years because he wasn鈥檛 very serious about the future.

He鈥檇 give vague responses whenever I tried to talk about where the relationship was headed. He also didn鈥檛 believe in marriage and didn鈥檛 want to be tied down because he dreamed of leaving the country. That bothered me because I鈥檝e always wanted a family. 

I was raised by my aunt, and although she treated me well, I often felt isolated. So I wanted the kind of close-knit family I didn鈥檛 have growing upHe also smoked, which I wasn鈥檛 comfortable with. Eventually, towards the end of my programme, our differences led us to break up.

The relationship had run its course, so it was easy to move on. After school, in 2019,  I got a job at a school and moved to Niger State. That鈥檚 where I met Paul*.

How did that meeting happen?

I was visiting a friend and walking around her neighbourhood when he approached me. He told me he worked at a church nearby and had noticed me around. He said he liked me and collected my number.

I wasn鈥檛 completely sold at first. He was short and smallish, but the more we talked, the more I liked him. He was very sweet. Eventually, he asked me out and I said yes.

At first, it seemed like we aligned on many things. Then, about two months into the relationship, I found out I was pregnant.

It was a huge shock. I was nervous about telling him because he worked for a church, and pregnancy outside marriage was obviously frowned upon. But his reaction surprised me. He was very happy and kept reassuring me that a child was a blessing.

He started talking about meeting my people and eventually getting married. I鈥檇 always wanted a family, and here was someone who seemed ready to give me exactly that.

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Sounds nice. And how did your family react when they found out about the pregnancy?

I kept it from then until I was about four months pregnant. They weren鈥檛 happy about the situation, but there wasn鈥檛 much they could do.

We went ahead with the introduction, and that was when I got my first glimpse into his web of secrets. If his family hadn’t come, I wouldn’t have found out he already had a child.

What? 

His mother came with a little girl who was about six years old. I initially thought she was his niece, but when I asked about the child, she said, 鈥淒idn鈥檛 Paul tell you about his first child?鈥

That was the first time I鈥檇 heard about any child. I wasted no time confronting him, and he became defensive. He explained that it had happened when he was younger with a woman from his hometown. He also added that it didn鈥檛 matter since he was no longer with her mother.

It hurt to find out that way, but we’d only been together for a short time, so I took it as a mistake from his past.

I see. I鈥檓 guessing you continued with the wedding plans?

We didn鈥檛. We’d planned to have a church wedding, but his pastor refused to wed us after they found out I was pregnant. I suggested having a traditional wedding instead, but he refused to participate in the village traditional marriage rites because they went against his religious beliefs.

While we were trying to figure out what to do, the COVID lockdown started. I eventually moved in with him, and we agreed to have the baby first and sort out the marriage afterwards.

 What was it like when you moved in together?

At first, it was really good. He was caring and supportive throughout my pregnancy.

Money was our main challenge. Neither of us was earning enough, so shortly after I gave birth, I started my own tailoring business. I’d learnt to sew while living with my aunt, and my cousins pooled money together to help me open a shop. The business picked up almost immediately and eventually became our main source of income.

In 2022, his church wanted to transfer him to another state in the East. He didn’t want to go and was already frustrated with the job, so he resigned. I wasn’t happy about it, but he convinced me it was the best decision for our family’s stability.

Unfortunately, that was when things took a turn for the worse.

In what ways?

He started asking for money for almost everything, and whenever I couldn’t give him what he wanted, he got angry.

I kept encouraging him to find a job, but he stayed at home for over a year. His mother would also call me about things she needed, and I’d send her money on his behalf.

Around that time, I’d just had our second child, so the financial pressure became overwhelming. Eventually, I pushed him to start tutoring students in 2023.

I expected him to start contributing to the household, but he still wasn’t giving me any money. I was paying for almost everything, while he always avoided questions about what he was doing with his earnings. His dodginess made me suspicious until I decided to look into it.

 One day in December, while he was out running personal errands, I checked his phone for his bank transactions. 

That’s when I noticed he was regularly sending money to a woman named Martha*.

I searched for her on WhatsApp and went through their messages. I didn’t need to read much before I realised they were romantically involved.

I confronted him and asked why he was sending her money. I was furious about the affair and even threatened to find her myself.

That’s when he admitted that they had a child together.

Wait, another child with another woman?

Precisely. I was devastated. I also realised the child was only a few months younger than our second child, which means it wasn鈥檛 a distant relationship from the past.

I couldn’t believe that after everything I did for him, he could betray me in that way. 

Since I was the one paying the rent, I told him to leave.  But I couldn鈥檛 stay angry for long. I also worried about what people would say when they found out.

So, against better judgment, I asked his family to mediate after I鈥檇 calmed down. He apologised and promised to end his relationship with Martha. Eventually, I agreed to let him come back on the condition that he paid the electricity bill and contributed towards food.

But forgiving him didn’t mean I’d forgotten what happened. I never fully moved past it. I didn’t trust him the way I used to, and our relationship was never the same.

But did things eventually get better?

For a little while. But I also struggled with how uninvolved he was with our children. Even though I was running my business and he was home most of the time, I couldn’t rely on him to look after them. I often had to take them to my shop.

Over time, I got so exhausted that I didn鈥檛 even want him touching me. Our sex life took a big hit, and he often used that to justify some of his behaviour.

Despite his grovelling and promises to right by me, I also found out he鈥檇 resumed his affair with Martha. 

Eventually, I stopped putting so much energy into him and focused on growing my business. And my efforts paid off. Over time,  I started training apprentices and had up to six girls working with me.

I had just begun finding some balance in my life when he disrupted it all again.

What happened?

He impregnated one of my apprentices. She鈥檇 missed work for some weeks until she randomly showed up with her mother one day. She knelt, apologising before her mother broke the news.

Oh dear. How did you react?

I lost it. I kept saying it couldn’t be true. But deep down, I knew it wasn’t impossible. My husband spent a lot of time around my shop, so I knew how easily they could have gotten close.

The girl showed me their messages and how he鈥檇 convinced her we weren鈥檛 married when she resisted his advances. He even promised her that he would leave me. 

She had already told him about the pregnancy, but he denied it. Eventually, the situation escalated to the point where they had to involve me.  

I鈥檓 sorry. Did you confront him?

I went home and waited for him, but he didn’t come. I called him almost 30 times, and every unanswered call made me angrier.

When he finally came home, we got into a shouting match. I could smell alcohol on his breath. I was already so angry that I slapped him.

He started threatening me and tried to grab me, but I pushed him to the floor and sat on him. I hit him repeatedly while shouting and insulting him.

Our neighbours eventually intervened and separated us.

By the next day, I was getting calls from different people. He’d even gone to the hospital because one of his eyes was bloodshot.

Everyone wanted us to resolve the situation, but they were focusing only on what I’d done. Nobody was talking about what had led to the fight or the fact that he’d gotten another young girl pregnant.

I considered trying to work things out, but he said he no longer felt safe around me. He also blamed me for his actions, saying we’d barely been intimate and that I’d become hostile towards him.

Eventually, I realised there was no point staying together. He hadn’t even married me after almost seven years together. When he packed his things and left, I didn鈥檛 try to stop him. 

Fair enough. How have you been coping since the separation?

Despite the relief, it still hurts. I’d considered myself married to him, and I’d been faithful throughout our relationship. He disrupted my life and then still chose to walk away.

It happened in March this year, so I’m still trying to move forward and let go of the bitterness.

So, how have these experiences shaped your idea of love and relationships?

First, I made a lot of mistakes. I put the cart before the horse by getting pregnant before we were married or had any real security in the relationship. It’s not something I’d advise anyone to do.

I’ve also learnt not to build your life around assumptions. I assumed that because he claimed to be a Christian, he would automatically be a good partner. I also assumed we’d grow together and build a life together.

But none of those assumptions could change who he was.

Finally, how are the streets treating you these days? Rate it on a scale of 1 to 10.

6/10. I’m slowly getting over everything and healing one day at a time. I don鈥檛 have time to think about love.

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]]> Which Actors Are Reuniting With Funke Akindele For Her New Movie? /pop/funke-akindele-reunites-actors-for-new-movie/ Mon, 10 Aug 2026 17:01:18 +0000 /?p=382165 The most of the year finally happened with Funke Akindele releasing the title and cast members of her annual Christmas blockbuster. This time, we鈥檙e leaving the Jenifa universe once again to meet The Four, coming to cinemas on the 11th of December. A film she says is about four women on four different journeys鈥擣unke The Odyssey remake when?聽

The ensemble cast is packed with big names like Richard Mofe Damijo, Ali Nuhu and Waje. Also, there are a host of other actors not new to Funke Akindele films and TV shows. So, we decided to highlight the actors who have worked with her before and their past projects in anticipation of The Four hitting screens around the world.聽

Timini Egbuson

He earned an AMVCA nomination for playing Pere Judah, the lover boy son of Jedidah Judah (played by Funke Akindele) in

Lateef Adedimeji

Lateef as part of Funke Akindele's cast

He played Bayo, the problematic brother of SHE in . A Funke Akindele TV show on Prime Video.聽

Uzor Arukwe 

Uzor as part of Funke Akindele cast

He played the stingy Igbo business owner Chigozie in A Tribe Called Judah. And also, Victor, Ronke鈥檚 lawyer and best friend, in .

Waje 

She tapped into her musicality to play X-Cite. The rival to SHE in She Must Be Obeyed on Prime Video.

Chioma Akpotha

Chioma Akpotha, nominated for a Funke Akindele movie.

She played Chummy Choko in Omo Ghetto: The Saga. This earned her a nomination for an African Viewers Choice Award for Best Actress in a Supporting Role.聽

Bisola Ayeola

Bisola part of a Funke Akindele movie

She played the women鈥檚 rights activist, Madam Bassey in Everybody Loves Jenifa.聽The third installment in Funke Akindele’s iconic Jenifa series.

Who are you most excited to see in the cinemas on December 11th?

]]> The Tinubu Administration Treats Every Criticism as an Attack, and That’s a Problem聽 /citizen/the-tinubu-administration-treats-every-criticism-as-an-attack-and-thats-a-problem/ Mon, 10 Aug 2026 14:19:52 +0000 /?p=382148 On Tuesday, July 28, sat across from President Tinubu at the presidential villa and told him what many Nigerians have been saying for a while now: The country鈥檚 economy is hurting people, and the insecurity is getting worse.

Tinubu responded with disagreement and a face, Onaiyekan later said, clearly wasn’t pleased. That single meeting has since spiralled into a between the presidency and other religious leaders.

Besties forever

If there was ever such a thing as a groupie award, someone should hand it over to Tinubu’s aides, because he can trust that they’ll always be there to defend him. 

After the cardinal’s interview, they issued statements of their own, refuting the cardinal’s comments and justifying the Tinubu administration’s reforms.

Temitope Ajayi, the special adviser to the president on media and publicity, the cardinal鈥檚 comments an “abuse of clerical privilege,” saying it was wrong for him to publicly give his account of the closed-door meeting with the President.  

Daniel Bwala, the Special Adviser to the President on Media and Policy Communications, politics had clouded the Cardinal’s judgment, alleging that he had openly supported the former Labour Party (LP) presidential candidate, Peter Obi, during the 2023 general elections.

Sunday Dare, the Special Adviser to the President on Media and Public Communications, put out a full titled saying that Onaiyekan acted in bad faith when he publicly discussed what happened during the meeting between President Tinubu and the Catholic Bishops鈥 Conference of Nigeria.

A Catholic priest, Reverend Father John Chinenye Oluoma, popularly known as Fada Oluoma, to the comments from Tinubu’s media team, saying they were acting like attack dogs, responding to criticism with insults rather than answers or solutions.

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Right, but at what cost?

Here’s where the story stops being about who hurt whose feelings. That same weekend, at least 52 people, including children, in an overnight raid on Kasuwar Daji village in Zamfara state,  after first overrunning a military base and seizing weapons from it. A coordinated raid on a community and the soldiers meant to protect it, and the Presidency was busy drafting statements about clerical privilege. 

That’s the reality the aides spent their weekend denying. It’s also the reality behind the growing numbers of insecurity and inflation in the country. About a million people are in the Northwest by banditry, food inflation has been climbing since April as insecurity chokes supply routes, and 34.7 million Nigerians are to face food insecurity by this year’s lean season.

Don鈥檛 you listen?

At this point, if a pothole criticised Tinubu’s road policy, someone in Aso Rock would accuse it of siding with the opposition. This government has one move for anyone who points out a problem: question their motives, never the problem.

In 2024, when the Nigeria Labour Congress (NLC) over unimplemented wage agreements, Tinubu the union of playing politics with the country’s hardship and told them to wait for 2027 if they wanted a say. The NLC wasn’t after his job. It just wanted the government to honour an already signed deal. 

Months earlier, when thousands of young Nigerians to protest hunger and hardship, the President that his government wouldn’t “stand idly by and allow a few with a clear political agenda to tear this nation apart.” 

A government that treats criticism as betrayal will keep getting the criticism wrong, and Nigerians will keep paying for that miscalculation in rising insecurity occurrences and increased food prices.

You don’t need a media aide’s permission to say what you’re living through. Say it anyway, to your ward, your local rep, on your social media.

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