Breakups are hard, whether we admit it or not. A terrible breakup can have you in bed, weeping and refusing to eat for days. Even when it鈥檚 a mutual agreement to part ways, you might still struggle to navigate it.
Some people get over heartbreaks faster than others and it鈥檚 nothing to be ashamed of. But for us slow lovers, here鈥檚 a list of things that helped me get over my own break up.
Don鈥檛 lie to yourself
First, don鈥檛 lie to yourself about what happened. It has happened and there鈥檚 no going back. Also, forget about getting back together. It does you more harm than good.
Don鈥檛 stalk them
Don鈥檛 read their tweets hoping for an inside joke or subs about missing you. They have new jokes now, new experiences you鈥檙e not part of, and you have yours too. This is a call to look at what鈥檚 in front of you.
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Detach
Remember that they are not your person, not anymore. This means you won鈥檛 get updates on what they鈥檙e up to, if they got their visa, when they鈥檙e leaving or if they like the new girl they鈥檙e seeing. None of these concern you. You will learn to mind your business.
Don鈥檛 contact them
Don鈥檛 send them messages trying to check how they are doing, especially if you didn鈥檛 end your relationship on good terms. Remember that before you, they were okay, and after you, they鈥檇 still be okay. This also applies to you.
Cry
Cry when you want to. Hold yourself when you cry. There鈥檚 no use pretending you鈥檙e bigger than the hurt. You are a person who feels things. This too shall pass.
Fall in love
Fall in love. Not just with people but with things. Go outside, breath in air tainted with humanity. Go to the beach, watch how the waves come and go. Remind yourself that life is in cycles.
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Talk to your friends
Talk to your friends; let them soothe you. Tell them about the pain. Don鈥檛 feel like you鈥檙e being a burden and no one wants you. They want to be there for you, so let them.
Affirm yourself
Remind yourself that you鈥檙e still the sun. Acknowledge your part in the breakup. Make your pledge to be better. Make a home in yourself so when this happens again, you know your way back.
